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Apr 20, 2021Liked by Genevieve Gluck

Dear Graham, I am deeply sorry for your loss. You credit your father for teaching you to stand up for women, well, please accept my profound gratitude for the sacrifices and abuse you have suffered on our behalf. I was telling someone just a couple of days ago how lovely it feels to experience the stalwart protection of a caring man for the first time in my life. I am 62 years old.

You will be in my thoughts during this painful time. You are a beautiful continuation of your father’s legacy, and I appreciate you both.

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Oh Graham I'm so sorry to hear that. He sounds a fabulous man and you are a credit to him and his values. My Dad would never have stood by and let someone be harmed least of all a woman or a child. We have a lot to thank these principled gentlemen for. Condolences to you and your family x

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When my mum died I took comfort in the fact that in Africa, they say that no one really dies until the last person that knew them has died as they live through other people. Some part of your dad lives in you ... and so he lives on in your words and deeds. Very raw now but in time hopefully these words will give you comfort

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So sorry for your loss, Graham. You look like him too. 81 is no age these days. When my father died I realised that suddenly a link to my childhood was lost and I could no longer check that my memories were correct. It felt like my ship suddenly lost an anchor. Deepest condolences.

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Sorry to hear about your dad Graham. He'll be proud of you for your many accomplishments, none more so than for what you are doing now. You've inherited his decency and strength - be strong!

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Sorry Graham. I consider you a little bit family now. As the Romans said, may the earth not weigh upon him

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Bless you Graham. Your dad sounds like a fabulous man: I bet he was proud of you.

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Sorry for your loss. I am sure he was proud of all you do. You are one of the most courageous people I know of.

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So sorry for your loss. That sounds like a life well spent - and he must have been so proud of you. Your courage is rare - and you are valued for so much in this world. Take care of yourself.

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Literally crying rn. Beautiful thoughts. When my father died I took on a couple of his behaviours to keep him alive in my self. This way he’s still here with me 10 years later. Every day. I’m sure Vincent was proud of u. Courage. M.

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Glad you told us Graham. Wishing you well at this hard time. However much we know these things will happen, there's no way out of feeling such a loss. As others have said, we care about you and I hope you find comfort in the knowledge of how you are appreciated.

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So sorry to hear of your sad news. Make sure to look after yourself and take a break if you need to. You seem to fight tirelessly, and it is much much appreciated.

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Dear Graham: Your dad raised a good fellow. Thank you for carrying his legacy forward. I hope you can find comfort during this heartbreaking time. God Bless.

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Grief is just the fucking pits and on top of what must have been a tough few months, maybe some time out to recharge and reflect might be a good idea?

You’re not in this fight alone, we can carry you while you grieve. How about some guest hosts for The mess we’re in?

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Sending you all the love Graham. I’m so sorry. He looks and sounds like a truly lovely and decent man.

I know you have a great work ethic Graham but please look after yourself. We all care about you as well as the gender craziness.

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I’m very sorry for your loss Graham. Your father sounds like a very decent man and he must have been very proud of you.

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