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I’m horrified. I don’t know which part upset me the most. The fact that she blames herself, the fact that she calls her rapist a she when they don’t deserve that respect. The fact that they made her call them sir and daddy - what the actual feck?! I feel violated on her behalf. This cannot be allowed to continue 🤬

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I can't even comment on this, I am so fucking angry.

What the hell?

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God, that's awful. I'm so angry right now I could fucking explode. The fact that poor woman still used female pronouns for her rapist, shows just how insidious and far-reaching this toxic ideology has become. Stonewall's downfall can't come soon enough in my opinion.

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That poor poor woman. What happened to her sickens and angers me. Everything about the coercion and manipulation in that encounter all feels like a very male dynamic from someone who then claims that mention of their penis makes them dysphoric. Outrageous

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Aside from the awfulness of what is described the most infuriating aspect of this account is that this lesbian woman STILL uses the pronoun 'she' about her rapist.

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that's so sick and the truth is she is one of so many, what, tens of thousands? Social media cut off millenials and gen z from the old school LGBT people like me that went through the AIDS crisis and would have mentored these young women to tell these creeps to get wrecked. It severed a whole generation of young females from women who would have protected them and then fed them to the wolves of psychopathic porn loving tech geeks like Zuckerberg and Dorsey, whose mentality (and the mentality of a huge number of males on the internet (internet=male psyche, basically) is to groom and exploit them, to use them for their own purposes. What a damn shame. Even worse Zuckerberg is going ahead with starting a kid's instagram, the son of a bastard. 44 atty generals have signed a letter begging him not to do so but apparently multiple billions of dollars are not enough...I don't know when in Hades our legislators the world over are going to get together and break up these platforms. So he's basically encouraging teens and pre-teens to fill the world with a river of victims and potential child porn and extortion victims..., I'm REEEEALLY starting to wonder about Zuckerberg and his predilections. The internet has turned out to be mainly a means of victimizing women and children, it runs on porn, predators, prostitution, and pedophilia. I read yesterday that Duterte of all people blocked the worlds biggest porn empire, X videos, from the Philippines 4 years ago!. So this is literally possible, flip a switch and boom! all that revenue stops flowing.

something else gagworthy I just saw: https://www.mediamatters.org/tiktok/tiktoks-recommendation-algorithm-promoting-homophobia-and-anti-trans-violence

media matters whining about homophobia/transphobia on tiktok due to the algorithm but tiktok is one of the WORST platforms the TRA use to threaten and call for violence againt 'terfs', or GC women and radical feminists. Narry a word about that. (Media matters was started by a gay ex-conservative named David Brock)

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Sickeningly familiar pattern, isn’t it? The worst of all the typical traits and tactics on display, used in *so* many situations, to get their own way, be they intimate and sexual or not. The gaslighting... the arch manipulation of both emotion and language... taking advantage of the feeling and empathy of a young woman, making it all about *him* (surprise, surprise) so that the person who has a total right to be angry is made to feel *sorry* for this dangerous sack. And at the end of it all he achieves what he wants, to wear someone down until they capitulate, bend to his will, question their whole being and are left humiliated and traumatised (of course that means bonus points though for this sicko). S’all ok though, right, ‘cos he got his? *She*?? That sh*t can f.r.o.

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Sitting in my kitchen with tears of sadness running down my face....my heart goes out to that poor woman.

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This is horrendous.

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That poor woman❤️

And how does saying a TW has a penis triggers their dysphoria but calling them sir and daddy during sex DOESN'T!?!?!? I'm calling total bullshit on that.

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The lesbian shouldn't beat herself up (figuratively) because HE would have beaten her up literally if she never relented. The misogynistic c*nt wasn't taking no for an answer; fisticuffs were an inevitability.

We've all seen that movie before and we know how it ends.

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Language is so much part of this whole deceitful juggernaut. The female pronouns used for rapists and ‘girldick’. Language being used to tell blatant lies. Anyone opposing or questioning or wanting to discuss / debate is called transphobic or a terf. Always the leap to accuse anyone doing any of that of being in opposition to all trans people. Which is not the case. The issue is with gender ideology brainwashing and with self ID. And they are not trans rights activists / TRAs because trans people already have rights. And they are not activists. I am an activist for women’s rights, for local community projects where I live, for holding my life together, protecting my children and rebuilding my teaching career, 30 years ago, in the aftermath of a marriage to an abusive bully. I see activism as something totally different to what is called activism and goes on under the umbrella of working for (already existing) trans rights because what goes on there is aggressive bullying, peddling & pushing lies and silencing. I’d like them not to be called TRAs. They are Gender Ideology Terrorist Thugs. GITTs. And their constant tipping of the argument and framing it as anti-trans needs constant re-framing and correcting as pro-women’s rights and the protection of children. Change the language they’ve devised and manipulated. The story of what happened to this woman is heartbreaking. I hope she can be helped to get past this nasty, deceitful rape by caring people in her life. No woman can ever be sure of her safety when dating someone new but what happened to her adds a whole new dimension to date rape.

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I hope the woman has found some proper support and is finding a way to come to terms with the reality of what happened to her. My thoughts are with her.

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Also, can we change the name of the organisation that once stood for something good? Part of why they get away with what they’ve been doing post-Hunt is because they trade on the name Stonewall. Can we start calling it something else? I thought Stranswall. But that throws all trans people in with the GITTs and that’s not fair. I liked the relevant re-naming (to fit the news contained) using Stonefall and Stonegall in recent Glinner postings. Brilliant! Language matters!

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He is a rapist, simple as that. A rapist.

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It's typical this type of behaviour from the T crowd. I once got called "transphobic" and harassed on a gay app due to not wanting to hookup with a trans identifying woman and how being bisexual I would have no problem with that.

Dude only mentioned it after a while and call me old fashioned but if I want to do a lady part I wouldn't use Gridr

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