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As someone who has had a stillbirth, this is disgusting. The lactation afterwards was probably more painful than the birth itself and went on for months. No woman wants to experience that!

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I'm so sorry you had to go through that, Kira. My heart goes out to you. Just underlines what a vile, narcissistic creep he is. No empathy for women whatsoever.

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Oct 2, 2020Liked by JL

Hes a massive creep. Thing is, no matter how much they "simulate" pregnancy and lactation, it'll never be the same as the real thing so he'll never get to experience it.

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Oct 2, 2020Liked by JL

Sorry to hear that Kiara , Love and Strength to You Sister ❤️

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Im so sorry for your loss x

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Kira, I am so so sorry, how the hell that must have made you feel...it is a disgrace. Sending you lots of love. I suffered through a loss at 22 weeks, it was horrible as it was, still haunted. Hugs

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Oct 2, 2020Liked by JL

This creep is sick and not ok in his head. What is more Appalling is the way society feed this monstrosity under the lieu of equal rights for trans. This fetish fantasy , is this a part of the community they represent.

This is BS and not even progressive. Plain BS.

Thank You JL for shedding light on this and all the excellent Sleuthing 👍

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Thanks, Gauri. It was really the fine feminists of the internet who did the sleuthing - I just collated the screenshots and added a few comments!

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Oct 2, 2020Liked by JL

Love the Honesty. GC family is great Indeed, but You manage to collect them all and put them in the best and understandable view for us, stressing the issue. So You Always deserve our thanks ❤️

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That's really kind of you to say & very much appreciated! xx

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This is absolutely disgusting. What ‘benefit’ will his ‘milk’ be to the baby? Pumped full of drugs too. And I wouldn’t be surprised if it wasn’t just his ‘dysphoria’ being satiated while he’s holding and man-teat feeding a baby. Why are women enabling this?? I guess cos they’ve been gaslighted into thinking that they’re ‘being kind’ (god, how I hate those words now). I hope his ‘divorce couldn’t come soon enough’ future ex-wife manages to get herself and her kids as far away from him as possible. Pronto.

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Never, ever EVER underestimate the power of female socialisation, asspats on the internet and woke points at home. Deadly combo.

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His wife possibly has little choice but stay in the house due to financial constraints. And you're a much better person than I am, Human! I'm afraid I can't feel any empathy for this guy at all.

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True. I really cannot imagine any infertile woman having the nerve to behave in this manner in the first place, though, can you? I really wish more people were aware of the various forms of fetishization related to autogynephilia. It's really NOT appropriate to indulge people like this when they try to appropriate women's experiences in supposed support groups.

It's about time FB enshrined some policies to protect women's dignity and privacy IMHO.

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DSM-IV change to DSM-V uncoupled the mental illness of 'gender dysphoria' from all the sexual paraphilias associated with it (or usually associated with it). And changed name from 'gender identity disorder' to 'gender dysphoria'. Softening. Hoping to get it taken out, but the double bind here is if it isn't in there, it doesn't get funded in 'MuriKKKa. Follow the $.

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I don't feel for him at all. Sympathy and compassion is for those truly unfortunate. This abomination is not deserving of care.

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I found an animated video from 2018 of him describing the jealousy he felt of his wife's pregnancy. It's horrible to watch, but I think quite relevant in showing the pure narcissism, and incredibly sick thoughts (such as wishing he could breastfeed the baby). Most of the comments here too, are in support of him.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NmZsw3ba0bM

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Thank you, Arthure. Jaysus, that's disturbing.

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Sorry, ARTHUR! So angry I can't type!

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I know the feeling! I originally found this on a pinned tweet on his Twitter feed using a web cache (which seems to have disappeared from Google now). I could post the link here if you like?

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Many thanks, Arthur. I'm sure it'll be useful to keep in the archive and for readers to see.

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Wow. The NYT facilitated that disturbing drivel! Just wow...

As for all of the supportive comments people left for him. Unreal.

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I cannot bring myself to watch or listen to such a revolting monster. Who did the animation and the NYT are really tabloid news now.

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The credits don't mention a particular studio, so it could have been an independent (or even internal) project for NYT. 'Animation' is credited to a Hannah Jacobs.

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@ezramillie1345

2 years ago

he actually got one poor woman who had lost a baby banned from a mothers support group because she was upset with him pretending to have a still birth. His wife also divorced him last year because she was fed up of his antics she had 2 extremely difficult preg nancies and felt mocked.

WOW" what a Bitch

Trans are having women banned from their own groups Its Disgusting

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Its About HIM

But isn't that always the Problem

Its about HIM!

Who needs a baby he has already got one, Himself

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What in the actual fuck is going on?! This is absolutely sick. If I had a miscarriage or still birth and then asked a woman could I breast feed her child, they'd assume I needed professional help. Why are they indulging a man?!

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Sad state of affairs, isn't it?

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The reply is in the question: because he's a man.

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How can he simulate labour without a uterus or cervix to contract or dilate!?

Absolute vom.

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He can't. All he can simulate is a stomach ache.

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Jesus Christ! Is this guy serious? Yeah, yeah - apparently he is.

It truly is stomach-turning and it's difficult for me to say who is worse - him or the handmaiden types who facilitate this revolting fetishization of women. It's almost a shame he can't suffer from one of the worst sequelae of actually giving birth if you ask me.

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how kind of them all. Is it time to make an international law about it?! Maybe it would shake a few idiots into their senses?

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This is grotesquerie. Why have we 'outlawed' naming and shaming the truly disgusting of society? Mentally ill or fetishist, there needs be limits to abnormal behaviour.

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I agree wholeheartedly. I have every sympathy for those with a genuine dysphoria, for those struggling against rigid gender stereotypes etc. But this creep is just a fetishist. He's found the perfect way to exhibit his perversion in public and have a host of naïve handmaidens play along and indulge him. He makes my stomach turn itself inside out.

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He looks like if I dressed my big toe as Snow White.

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Disgraceful. Having suffered a late miscarriage this makes me feel so angry. Womens medicine , especially during pregnancy is woefully lacking. I had to spend the night in a maternity ward with other women and their newborns after my muscarriage (at 20 weeks) . Devestating. How the f*** is this a fetish.. what the actual f***!!

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Oh Emily. I'm so very sorry. It's the most painful & heartbreaking time, isn't it? Sending lots of love to you xx

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Thank you, it was a long time ago, but it never leaves you. I will always remember the calloous way the hospital treated me. Thank you xx

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Christ almighty. He's obviously very sick, but it's always the enablers... what are they getting from all this?

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I have a screenshot of what happened when he first decided to go into labour.

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Please tell me it's his wife kicking him out onto the pavement and throwing his size 12 slingbacks after him?? (Though I suspect that's not the case!)

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Apr 5, 2021Liked by JL

Poor woman. Imagine being trapped in a relationship with that horror show. I hope she finds the strength to leave

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He refers to her as 'my soon to be ex wife' so I think she's managed to escape him.

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I wish. Though she doesnt want him doing it at their home. I want to send it to Graham but no idea how.

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I was just about to ask - what happened when the “labour pains” started?

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Is there anything more heart-warming than the comfort a suckling infant takes from being chest-fed with synthetically enhanced male-milk?

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Carrie, it baffles me how this creepy pervert is being cheered on and even enabled by a group of mothers.

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You couldn't make it up!

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Absolutely, Wally. (And I wouldn't want to! 😳)

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Reality has gone out the window. This is just Sick

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