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Just had a couple of glasses of wine and I’m now having a kitchen disco. A thought struck me. Transwomen can never be me. A 51 year old woman who has birthed 3 healthy children, had one traumatic miscarriage, 3 grandchildren, 1 - I don’t see because my middle son’s wife is… well let’s leave that. I have a broken marriage behind me - after 34 years of putting him first he decided to trade me in for a 36 year old he’d met at Butlins. I have a really good international teaching job which makes me financially independent and I’m dancing on a Monday evening in my kitchen because I can. That’s what women do. We rise and we rise despite any set backs or shit thrown at us. We laugh, we cry, we embrace life. That lot of whinging wannabes will never be me or anywhere close and that’s why they are so violent and ridiculous and hateful.

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You are a warrior queen, Mel! Sending all love and solidarity to you. Enjoy your wine & dancing xxx

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Thank you 🤩

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That’s why it’s so disgusting to fetishize women the way that they do. I’m a GenX woman in California who now understands the drag performance from reading lesbian feminists. I’d always been suspicious of what they were actually doing. I’ve also come to see the mask of makeup that women wear for the ugliness that it is. Thankfully, because of the struggle and hard work of women in generations before me, I never wore that stuff or the sadistic shoes and REFUSE to label myself “gender non-conforming” or some such derogatory term. I have always been and remain a WOMAN!!! Thanks for the lovely image of you dancing in your kitchen. We women will not submit to male domination!

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The makeup wearing has definitely gotten more intense in my lifetime. I watch the women on television and I finally realized that women are supposed to look like clowns. Have you seen the women with the false eyelashes that look like they were made from black construction paper? It is so sad, but now women too do not see themselves when they look in the mirror, they see what they have been told to see.

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YES!!! The fake eyelashes and stiletto heels of the TV personalities are so totally porno-inspired! I do see it as a clown’s garb, and that women are expected to do this to signal that they approve of their second status. When I was a little kid in the ‘70’s, there were still women around who didn’t shave their armpits, and guys wearing long hair! Then the ‘80’s happened, and it was big hair and makeup lol around.

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Back in the 80s I, too, wore makeup but I never once said I wasn't a man.

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You might like this, William. I lived in the East Village in Manhattan and one day I saw a pretty, elderly lady buying produce. When I looked a second time I realized it was Quentin Crisp (in makeup, of course). This is what I like about gender criticism: Of course men can wear makeup!

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Thank you - I too, wear little make up and it’s definitely comfy shoe choice or barefoot for dancing 😍x

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Barefoot dancing is the best! Thanks again for sharing about your life and the image of you dancing (barefoot) in your kitchen with a glass of wine. It’s very empowering to other women! 🥰

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❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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