A New Resource for Parents and Desisters

Offering an escape from the gender trap

Note: Desisters are individuals who previously identified as transgender or gender non-conforming but have ceased to do so without having undergone medical transition.

Do you know that desisters exist, and that there are a lot of them? We do. Do you know that it’s possible to support a child along the pathway from the confusion of a transgender identity to desistance? We do, because we’ve done it. We are Parents of Desisters, a large international group of mothers and fathers. We’ve just launched a website to amplify our voices and those of our desisted kids, and to offer hope and practical advice to other parents who are going through similar experiences.

The existence of our desisted children demonstrates the falsehood that a trans-identity is innate and stable and should be affirmed. We don’t understand why no one is talking about us or trying to learn from our experiences. Don’t people want to acknowledge that kids do desist from a transgender identity? Don’t they want to understand how we helped our kids?

Gender ideology is insidious. Our kids have been indoctrinated to believe the terrible lie that if we won’t affirm their trans-identity, it’s proof that we don’t love or care about them. Many of us have had the inconceivable experience of having our child socially transitioned behind our backs and without our consent.

Some of us have had social services threaten to take away our kids because we refuse to lie. We’ve been admonished to accept our children as the opposite sex and threatened that if we don’t, they will estrange themselves from us, or even kill themselves. This is the suicide myth, and it’s coercive, emotional blackmail.

No one loves or cares for a child more than their parents. Parents have a responsibility to speak truthfully to and about their children. The truth is that no child is born in the wrong body, and we don’t think it’s loving or kind to pretend otherwise. We believe that we must protect our children’s right to an open future.

Although a child’s announcement of a transgender identity can catch them off guard, we advise parents to remember that they are the experts on their child. Parents are best situated to offer unconditional love and support to a struggling child. While we acknowledge that there is no one solution, answer, or list of dos-and don’ts that will work for every family, we believe that every child can learn to love and accept their healthy body.

We hope our website will bring greater awareness about desisters, and detransitioners that they do exist and are everywhere, and that desistance is possible.

We are eager to hear from parents, and from medical, mental health, and school professionals who want to help us safeguard children and support them in living healthy

lives in health bodies. Please join us in supporting the truth that every child is born in the right body.

Visit us at: Parentsofdesisters.info

Contact us at: Pitt@parentsofdesisters.info

On X: @DesisterParents