There are now a number of online groups for parents of transgender children, such as on the Mermaids website and on Facebook, with collectively thousands of members. They’re presented as support groups but they appear to involve parents egging each other on to groom their children to believe that they are transgender, often based on minor behavioural attributes that are common among young children.
My mum used to say (back in the day) “there was a time when you had to have a licence to own a dog, yet any fool can have a kid”
I can imagine her reaction to the modern affirming/grooming style of parenting (using the term parenting very loosely). She would say “parents are not friends they are there to guide their children, to set boundaries, to provide love and care but busy no means allow the children to set the agenda”.
Kids under 10 cannot be trusted to cross the road unsupervised. What parent would take “I’m a girl” at 3 years old. How does a 3 year old know what that actually means? This is obviously the parents sickness. How on earth can they justify such awful grooming, it really is nauseating. Those poor kids.
Thank you so much for your substack. I'm reminded I need to return to Ovarit or Spinster, because frankly there's a basic pain I feel when I read this that I need to acknowledge before I can be of greater service.
I don't mean this is about my "lived experience" and it's all about my pain...but reviewing these things is like how I feel when I read an account of a woman being raped and killed, or if I ever happen upon a discussion of men about pornography.
Why do they hate women so much? And how can other females be so clueless as to go along with it? It's dumbfounding--before the rage, the sadness, the despair--there's just this perpetually surprised disbelief at how much some males despise females.
I've experienced different levels of it--being ignored or insulted by boys as an unkempt "brain" until my teens, then being hounded literally every HOUR I was in public for about 15 years beginning at around 13, to being now middle-aged and on the receiving end of this infantile-rage-at-the-mother.
Is it this simple, that men have a giant, visible clitoris of which they're aware all of the time, with psychosis-inducing levels of testosterone, and feel physically compelled to want to transgress against 12-25-year-old girls, and then hate us for it? Totally project their behavior onto us and tell us WE'RE the ones with the power? Like calling 14-point stags the ones with "power" because hundreds of hunters want to take it down?
And as we get older--but not completely invisibly old--but still attractive but older women who obviously know better, they hate our guts because they think it's this grand scheudenfrade, this existential comeuppance for our crime of their visually-induced erections? And they hate that we know, and they hate that some men still value us, because they're so enraged at the sexual power we used to have?
Or is it feminist psychoanalytic insight of infantile rage at near universal mothering (see Chodorow, 1979, or Dinnerstein)? That the developmental task of individuation from ages 2-5 triggers an existential rage at the adult (usually a woman) who originally introduced a human child to the reality of limits, of powerlessness and loss? And then females develop complicated boundaries with this mother and other women while most males define themselves by perpetually telling themselves they're NOT the feminine mother, such that they conflate performative masculinity with humanity and then police it in a way that women don't have to?
This may be a greater challenge than the umpteen billion dollar international pornography industry to women's rights--trans ideology is the encoding of pornographic values onto our bodies, our children, our very right to bodily integrity.
I just don't get it. These are the values of sociopaths. But I do know that on some level transideologues know this, because they came out of the gate 10 years ago aggressively targeting anyone with the most fundamental questions, unlike any group that actually ever had their civil rights violated. They are the pink shirts of the 21st century who openly call for harming TERFs, whom they mostly imagine as middle-aged white women. We are perceived as the greatest threat to their disguising their transgressive paraphilia to have access to our bodies as a civil right.
And the few men who grasp this from a radical feminist perspective--thank you Graham--are in for as much or more rage, since they're counting on you not to call out their wink-wink perversion. They don't mind traditionally conservative men--they're not the threats, because they see a common cause in old gender roles and misogyny. But a man who actually grasps how seriously misogynist this is? Thank you again for your willingness to stand up for women and children.
The absolute shit-ton of therapy that's going to be needed down the line from this, not to mention lawsuits and surgical procedures will break the NHS.
Child abuse, plain and simple. Munchausen by proxy. . . just WRONG! If these are real parents, where are social services and the police? I have a friend who has another close friend who falls into this category. . . pushing/encouraging her eight year old son down this route. And we agree not to talk about it because it makes me cry. And I don't even know this person. . .
"‘I’m disappointed that my child doesn’t want to be trans anymore despite assuring us that she was when she was 4.’" 😳
WTFFF!? When my son was 4, he was quite adamant that he was a T-Rex. 4 years old FFS. How absolutely ludicrous, irresponsible, and harmful to wish a mental illness and lifelong dependency on medication on a child. It's no wonder mimmybirthingparent is raging at these screenshots, it exposes this insanity for all to see.
I regret any crossword I've ever exchanged with my parents now 😂 Next to this depraved shower of grotesques, my mum and dad were bloody awesome (they were always awesome, now they're just more awesome 😉)
Pray for the sprogs, everybody. Only divine intervention can save 'em now 😢
Are these real parents or simply activists posing as parents? I know there are a lot of bad parents everywhere but my god what absolute idiots and do dangerous to their own children.
Every year we tell our kids that Father Christmas, the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny are real. So why wouldn’t they believe mummy and daddy when they tell them there not a girl but a boy, not a boy but a girl. We’re the society we shape and that shape’s grotesque and I’m complicit too by not standing up and shouting no - I’m no better than those who are holding the hand of their child as they take them to meet the man holding the knife. It’s only people like you Graham who give me hope for humanities soul, but I think mine may be beyond redemption.
This is what munchausen by proxy looks like in 2021
My mum used to say (back in the day) “there was a time when you had to have a licence to own a dog, yet any fool can have a kid”
I can imagine her reaction to the modern affirming/grooming style of parenting (using the term parenting very loosely). She would say “parents are not friends they are there to guide their children, to set boundaries, to provide love and care but busy no means allow the children to set the agenda”.
Kids under 10 cannot be trusted to cross the road unsupervised. What parent would take “I’m a girl” at 3 years old. How does a 3 year old know what that actually means? This is obviously the parents sickness. How on earth can they justify such awful grooming, it really is nauseating. Those poor kids.
The parents sound like a gaggle of 6 year olds playing with their Barbie dolls.
Thank you so much for your substack. I'm reminded I need to return to Ovarit or Spinster, because frankly there's a basic pain I feel when I read this that I need to acknowledge before I can be of greater service.
I don't mean this is about my "lived experience" and it's all about my pain...but reviewing these things is like how I feel when I read an account of a woman being raped and killed, or if I ever happen upon a discussion of men about pornography.
Why do they hate women so much? And how can other females be so clueless as to go along with it? It's dumbfounding--before the rage, the sadness, the despair--there's just this perpetually surprised disbelief at how much some males despise females.
I've experienced different levels of it--being ignored or insulted by boys as an unkempt "brain" until my teens, then being hounded literally every HOUR I was in public for about 15 years beginning at around 13, to being now middle-aged and on the receiving end of this infantile-rage-at-the-mother.
Is it this simple, that men have a giant, visible clitoris of which they're aware all of the time, with psychosis-inducing levels of testosterone, and feel physically compelled to want to transgress against 12-25-year-old girls, and then hate us for it? Totally project their behavior onto us and tell us WE'RE the ones with the power? Like calling 14-point stags the ones with "power" because hundreds of hunters want to take it down?
And as we get older--but not completely invisibly old--but still attractive but older women who obviously know better, they hate our guts because they think it's this grand scheudenfrade, this existential comeuppance for our crime of their visually-induced erections? And they hate that we know, and they hate that some men still value us, because they're so enraged at the sexual power we used to have?
Or is it feminist psychoanalytic insight of infantile rage at near universal mothering (see Chodorow, 1979, or Dinnerstein)? That the developmental task of individuation from ages 2-5 triggers an existential rage at the adult (usually a woman) who originally introduced a human child to the reality of limits, of powerlessness and loss? And then females develop complicated boundaries with this mother and other women while most males define themselves by perpetually telling themselves they're NOT the feminine mother, such that they conflate performative masculinity with humanity and then police it in a way that women don't have to?
This may be a greater challenge than the umpteen billion dollar international pornography industry to women's rights--trans ideology is the encoding of pornographic values onto our bodies, our children, our very right to bodily integrity.
I just don't get it. These are the values of sociopaths. But I do know that on some level transideologues know this, because they came out of the gate 10 years ago aggressively targeting anyone with the most fundamental questions, unlike any group that actually ever had their civil rights violated. They are the pink shirts of the 21st century who openly call for harming TERFs, whom they mostly imagine as middle-aged white women. We are perceived as the greatest threat to their disguising their transgressive paraphilia to have access to our bodies as a civil right.
And the few men who grasp this from a radical feminist perspective--thank you Graham--are in for as much or more rage, since they're counting on you not to call out their wink-wink perversion. They don't mind traditionally conservative men--they're not the threats, because they see a common cause in old gender roles and misogyny. But a man who actually grasps how seriously misogynist this is? Thank you again for your willingness to stand up for women and children.
The absolute shit-ton of therapy that's going to be needed down the line from this, not to mention lawsuits and surgical procedures will break the NHS.
Child abuse, plain and simple. Munchausen by proxy. . . just WRONG! If these are real parents, where are social services and the police? I have a friend who has another close friend who falls into this category. . . pushing/encouraging her eight year old son down this route. And we agree not to talk about it because it makes me cry. And I don't even know this person. . .
Child abuse.
Deluded parents!
"‘I’m disappointed that my child doesn’t want to be trans anymore despite assuring us that she was when she was 4.’" 😳
WTFFF!? When my son was 4, he was quite adamant that he was a T-Rex. 4 years old FFS. How absolutely ludicrous, irresponsible, and harmful to wish a mental illness and lifelong dependency on medication on a child. It's no wonder mimmybirthingparent is raging at these screenshots, it exposes this insanity for all to see.
I regret any crossword I've ever exchanged with my parents now 😂 Next to this depraved shower of grotesques, my mum and dad were bloody awesome (they were always awesome, now they're just more awesome 😉)
Pray for the sprogs, everybody. Only divine intervention can save 'em now 😢
The sexualisation of children should be a safeguarding red flag, why on earth are these parents being applauded?
Are these real parents or simply activists posing as parents? I know there are a lot of bad parents everywhere but my god what absolute idiots and do dangerous to their own children.
I can hardly even bear to read all this although I know it must be done. I scroll through with one eye closed.
Every year we tell our kids that Father Christmas, the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny are real. So why wouldn’t they believe mummy and daddy when they tell them there not a girl but a boy, not a boy but a girl. We’re the society we shape and that shape’s grotesque and I’m complicit too by not standing up and shouting no - I’m no better than those who are holding the hand of their child as they take them to meet the man holding the knife. It’s only people like you Graham who give me hope for humanities soul, but I think mine may be beyond redemption.
I see there is one parent writing from Glasgow. Does anyone know if there are any investigations into the Sandyford Clinic?
How is Fuuuuuuu** not the most appropriate reaction to this? !