It’s not enough for “t” men to be harassing, stalking, assaulting, silencing, doxxing and erasing women…they brazenly “feel” they have the right to replace us. Thanks for all the information on this narcissistic, highly manipulative man. Makes my skin crawl. Same rapist, male-entitlement mentality for this man to NOT have divulged that he was a man until AFTER being embedded in a Women’s Movement & Women’s Rape Crisis Safe Space. All I see is a walking ego with big man hands gloating because he thinks he can “pass”. Beam me up, Scotty!!
True and also " getting off " on the details of the rape victims. Why else would he even mention ,let alone think of , orgasm in this situation.!! Not something that would occur to any woman especially not the victim
Absolutely! Omg, I must’ve skipped that sentence (brain overload)! Horrifying example of EXTREMELY inappropriate, unprofessional, harmful insanity. Wth? Whoever hired and/or allowed this man to work in this rape crisis centre needs to be fired as well.
Thanks a lot for the comprehensive info on this scandal. It's good to see that there are women like you who are fighting back and who clearly know what they are doing. As someone who has been traumatized by severe violence myself I can't even begin to let you know how important that is for victims. But you probably know that yourself. Keep up the good work.
A role like that should require higher level disclosure checks, so if Mridul didn't disclose that he was a transgender, did he make a misleading disclosure declaration, an offence under Section 123(2) of the Police Act 1997 and section 65(2)(a) of the PVG Act?
The countersigning organisation on a higher level disclosure check is required to verify an individual's identity. So, either they knew when they hired him for a role that was advertised for women only, or the correct background checks have not been carried out?
I couldn't stomach more than 3 minutes of the video. The absolutely spot on account of what is and what isn't appropriate in trauma care and therapy by Jessica Taylor on the other hand was a breath of cool fresh air. Amazing what happens when you line honesty, engagement, dedication and humility up against selfishness, vanity, melodrama and sentimentality. It makes you feel nourished in a way you until then didn't realise you were missing.
Well, colour me surprised… the TIM CEO of the ERC is boasting about policing actual women’s worst experiences at the most vulnerable time in their lives and gaslighting them into thinking *they* are somehow in the wrong, even as they tell their terrible stories, all in order to steer their thoughts towards empathising with him and his experience while he lords it over them as they feel diminished and under the male cosh again. He really is revelling in giving these women a second serving of male mind games at best and revictimization at worst. I would call it supreme narcissism. But he’d only consider the description due compliment.
Well, as The Clash once said and I concur - "Give 'Em Enough Rope..... " Let the pervert AGPs keep posting their sick selfies, self-incriminating video interviews, tweets, blogs, articles and books. And we'll just just sit here and peak-trans the whole world with them. And fiddle while they burn their own house of wank-stained cards down 😠😁
Where does the Public Sector Equality Duty (PSED) fit here? Or has that been twisted and misapplied too.
I knew men who worked in domestic violence and sexual violence support. I like, love and respect men. I was recently in hospital and was treated with the utmost care, kindess and respect by male and female paramedics and then a young male doctor. I picked up that he was incredibly nervous and careful about respecting me and my boundaries - he asked if he could examine me and it wasn't stressful or awkward. I was concerned not to add to his anxiety by smiling, but respecting his respect for me. He mentioned his culture as we chatted (he wasn't from the UK) and respect for woman is clearly not as diluted in his family and background as it is where I live or online. He was clearly keeping a bit of an eye on me, as several of the other male and female staff had too. It's what people in caring professions should do. They put me at my ease. Mridul's sneering statements are the polar opposite. The more that come to light, the worse it is. Surely Mridul can't keep escaping scrutiny?
It seems the main objective here is promoting transgenderism rather than the care of women. The targeting of this kind of work, like the targeting of prisons is an aggressive attack on females as a distinct category. If men can prevail in these areas where women are most vulnerable and deserve the greatest safeguarding then the rest will be a breeze.
Did you see how male rape survivors in Scotland are allowed to choose to have only male counselors? It’s only female rape victims who are called bigots for wanting female-only counseling.
I find it disturbing that this man thinks being targeted by a, sniper in Syria is the same as the comments, pushing abd shoving he received as a young person in India. He was not going to be killed by a single comment. A single bullet on the other hand...
With him, it is all about him and his ilk. There is no understanding of women and violence against women and what it does to them. I know many of the women he has worked with and I don't understand how they 1. Believe him to be a woman and 2. How they believe him safe to manage a crisis centre? These are not stupid women. They are bright and committed to women only spaces abd yet they have been pulled in to the spell he has cast over the movement. Once he says he is a mother, that makes everything okay?
No it doesn't. He is the joker in the pack. He is the spinner of tales. He is the fox in the hen house.
When he was recruited, he should have filled out the EO form and obviously didn't because at every opportunity he declares he would have declared if given the chance. He was and he didn't. So he is a liar. What else has he lied about? There is going to be a reckoning and it won't be in favour of him.
Is the ref to Syria in the interviews? I'm not listening to them. Does Mridul know anything at all about Syria or Syrians? Anything? Can't Mridul ask a few colleagues? Is it possible to really be so unaware of the unimaginable destruction and destabilisation of their land, their culture, their history and their lives. Futures. Their everything. Generations wiped out. How many are dead. How many are trying and have rebuilt new lives all over the world and now over decades?
Entirely possible that a repeatedly traumatised Syrian woman or girl is being signposted or turning up at that centre in the next few hours.
Rereading this part from Wadwha today, and the last bit is *really* bothering me, “You have to rethink your relationship with prejudice. Otherwise, you can’t really, in my view, recover from trauma and I think that’s a very important message **THAT I AM OFTEN DISCUSSING WITH MY COLLEAGUES** [my emphasis].” Now, I have experience of a TIM, who was undoubtedly, a narcissist and myself being a generally nice, kind and open person (read: a well-trained female), listened to, assisted, sympathised with & counselled this man. That is, until the penny started to drop at the extent of his grandiose ideas about himself and his feelings of superiority over others, and really dreadful, patronising behaviour towards women, myself included. To cut a long story short, my eyes were opened. This person was no friend. And I’d wasted my time and emotional energy on them.
And so I thought today about the (mainly female, I’d imagine), colleagues of Wadhwa and how they would be held in thrall, through kindness (both conditioned and innate) and empathy, to a story of oppression and personal struggle and difficulties as told by this beguiling and charismatic man, so skilled at weaving a web of lies and hyperbole, masquerading as a woman, passing themself off as progressive and forward-thinking. Then I thought of how these female colleagues may slowly, or even suddenly, feel the coins fall from their eyes, the big ol’ pennies that were blinding their insight, and with so much white noise emanating from one man and the accompanying ideology, that their own inner voices were dampened down, as they whispered to them that this one is an arch narcissist, be warned, steer clear, there is an agenda at play. Because women generally want to think the best of people. It can take a good long while for realisation of another's motives to dawn.
I feel for these females being talked at and talked at and talked at by Wadhwa. It’s hard to stand up to such forcefulness. And to call it out from within the org? Almost impossible. One day, perhaps not too many more days away from today, this CEO will overstep the mark, even more conclusively if this example hasn’t yet proven enough of a red flag for most, and resign or be booted out and then, when he’s finally flounced off, we will hear the voices of those obliged to work beside and under him. When the spell has been broken, the women will tentatively speak to one another about their one-on-one and collective experiences of having this cuckoo in their midst, and in time we’ll listen to their stories. Truth will out.
It’s not enough for “t” men to be harassing, stalking, assaulting, silencing, doxxing and erasing women…they brazenly “feel” they have the right to replace us. Thanks for all the information on this narcissistic, highly manipulative man. Makes my skin crawl. Same rapist, male-entitlement mentality for this man to NOT have divulged that he was a man until AFTER being embedded in a Women’s Movement & Women’s Rape Crisis Safe Space. All I see is a walking ego with big man hands gloating because he thinks he can “pass”. Beam me up, Scotty!!
True and also " getting off " on the details of the rape victims. Why else would he even mention ,let alone think of , orgasm in this situation.!! Not something that would occur to any woman especially not the victim
Absolutely! Omg, I must’ve skipped that sentence (brain overload)! Horrifying example of EXTREMELY inappropriate, unprofessional, harmful insanity. Wth? Whoever hired and/or allowed this man to work in this rape crisis centre needs to be fired as well.
Thanks a lot for the comprehensive info on this scandal. It's good to see that there are women like you who are fighting back and who clearly know what they are doing. As someone who has been traumatized by severe violence myself I can't even begin to let you know how important that is for victims. But you probably know that yourself. Keep up the good work.
A role like that should require higher level disclosure checks, so if Mridul didn't disclose that he was a transgender, did he make a misleading disclosure declaration, an offence under Section 123(2) of the Police Act 1997 and section 65(2)(a) of the PVG Act?
The countersigning organisation on a higher level disclosure check is required to verify an individual's identity. So, either they knew when they hired him for a role that was advertised for women only, or the correct background checks have not been carried out?
I couldn't stomach more than 3 minutes of the video. The absolutely spot on account of what is and what isn't appropriate in trauma care and therapy by Jessica Taylor on the other hand was a breath of cool fresh air. Amazing what happens when you line honesty, engagement, dedication and humility up against selfishness, vanity, melodrama and sentimentality. It makes you feel nourished in a way you until then didn't realise you were missing.
Well, colour me surprised… the TIM CEO of the ERC is boasting about policing actual women’s worst experiences at the most vulnerable time in their lives and gaslighting them into thinking *they* are somehow in the wrong, even as they tell their terrible stories, all in order to steer their thoughts towards empathising with him and his experience while he lords it over them as they feel diminished and under the male cosh again. He really is revelling in giving these women a second serving of male mind games at best and revictimization at worst. I would call it supreme narcissism. But he’d only consider the description due compliment.
Well, as The Clash once said and I concur - "Give 'Em Enough Rope..... " Let the pervert AGPs keep posting their sick selfies, self-incriminating video interviews, tweets, blogs, articles and books. And we'll just just sit here and peak-trans the whole world with them. And fiddle while they burn their own house of wank-stained cards down 😠😁
Thank you for a wonderful response.
Where does the Public Sector Equality Duty (PSED) fit here? Or has that been twisted and misapplied too.
I knew men who worked in domestic violence and sexual violence support. I like, love and respect men. I was recently in hospital and was treated with the utmost care, kindess and respect by male and female paramedics and then a young male doctor. I picked up that he was incredibly nervous and careful about respecting me and my boundaries - he asked if he could examine me and it wasn't stressful or awkward. I was concerned not to add to his anxiety by smiling, but respecting his respect for me. He mentioned his culture as we chatted (he wasn't from the UK) and respect for woman is clearly not as diluted in his family and background as it is where I live or online. He was clearly keeping a bit of an eye on me, as several of the other male and female staff had too. It's what people in caring professions should do. They put me at my ease. Mridul's sneering statements are the polar opposite. The more that come to light, the worse it is. Surely Mridul can't keep escaping scrutiny?
It seems the main objective here is promoting transgenderism rather than the care of women. The targeting of this kind of work, like the targeting of prisons is an aggressive attack on females as a distinct category. If men can prevail in these areas where women are most vulnerable and deserve the greatest safeguarding then the rest will be a breeze.
Did you see how male rape survivors in Scotland are allowed to choose to have only male counselors? It’s only female rape victims who are called bigots for wanting female-only counseling.
Wonder why that is. Hmm.
I find it disturbing that this man thinks being targeted by a, sniper in Syria is the same as the comments, pushing abd shoving he received as a young person in India. He was not going to be killed by a single comment. A single bullet on the other hand...
With him, it is all about him and his ilk. There is no understanding of women and violence against women and what it does to them. I know many of the women he has worked with and I don't understand how they 1. Believe him to be a woman and 2. How they believe him safe to manage a crisis centre? These are not stupid women. They are bright and committed to women only spaces abd yet they have been pulled in to the spell he has cast over the movement. Once he says he is a mother, that makes everything okay?
No it doesn't. He is the joker in the pack. He is the spinner of tales. He is the fox in the hen house.
When he was recruited, he should have filled out the EO form and obviously didn't because at every opportunity he declares he would have declared if given the chance. He was and he didn't. So he is a liar. What else has he lied about? There is going to be a reckoning and it won't be in favour of him.
Is the ref to Syria in the interviews? I'm not listening to them. Does Mridul know anything at all about Syria or Syrians? Anything? Can't Mridul ask a few colleagues? Is it possible to really be so unaware of the unimaginable destruction and destabilisation of their land, their culture, their history and their lives. Futures. Their everything. Generations wiped out. How many are dead. How many are trying and have rebuilt new lives all over the world and now over decades?
Entirely possible that a repeatedly traumatised Syrian woman or girl is being signposted or turning up at that centre in the next few hours.
Rereading this part from Wadwha today, and the last bit is *really* bothering me, “You have to rethink your relationship with prejudice. Otherwise, you can’t really, in my view, recover from trauma and I think that’s a very important message **THAT I AM OFTEN DISCUSSING WITH MY COLLEAGUES** [my emphasis].” Now, I have experience of a TIM, who was undoubtedly, a narcissist and myself being a generally nice, kind and open person (read: a well-trained female), listened to, assisted, sympathised with & counselled this man. That is, until the penny started to drop at the extent of his grandiose ideas about himself and his feelings of superiority over others, and really dreadful, patronising behaviour towards women, myself included. To cut a long story short, my eyes were opened. This person was no friend. And I’d wasted my time and emotional energy on them.
And so I thought today about the (mainly female, I’d imagine), colleagues of Wadhwa and how they would be held in thrall, through kindness (both conditioned and innate) and empathy, to a story of oppression and personal struggle and difficulties as told by this beguiling and charismatic man, so skilled at weaving a web of lies and hyperbole, masquerading as a woman, passing themself off as progressive and forward-thinking. Then I thought of how these female colleagues may slowly, or even suddenly, feel the coins fall from their eyes, the big ol’ pennies that were blinding their insight, and with so much white noise emanating from one man and the accompanying ideology, that their own inner voices were dampened down, as they whispered to them that this one is an arch narcissist, be warned, steer clear, there is an agenda at play. Because women generally want to think the best of people. It can take a good long while for realisation of another's motives to dawn.
I feel for these females being talked at and talked at and talked at by Wadhwa. It’s hard to stand up to such forcefulness. And to call it out from within the org? Almost impossible. One day, perhaps not too many more days away from today, this CEO will overstep the mark, even more conclusively if this example hasn’t yet proven enough of a red flag for most, and resign or be booted out and then, when he’s finally flounced off, we will hear the voices of those obliged to work beside and under him. When the spell has been broken, the women will tentatively speak to one another about their one-on-one and collective experiences of having this cuckoo in their midst, and in time we’ll listen to their stories. Truth will out.
"Man-made crisis"...
I'm not sure if this is intentionally punnery but it works. This truly is a man-made crisis.
Brilliantly said.