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I have shared this update in my Facebook page with the following introduction. ‘ This piece asks that people ‘discuss the elephant in the room’. Well, I have been trying very hard to discuss it for at least three years on the basis of my personal experience of actually living with the elephant for the most miserable years of my life. As a consequence I have been called a ‘terf’, a ‘hater’ and a ‘bigot’. I have been ostracised, bullied out of groups to which I formerly belonged, and harassed via the internet, Twitter and Messenger. Frankly, it hasn’t been much fun. Why do I persist? Because the elephant is a TRUTH well know to women like me - and, incidentally, there are more of us than some people might thank. The elephant is a truth much feared by trans rights activists so they must silence by whatever means possible the voices of those who would speak it. If you are going to condone such silencing or even participate in it, then at least know what it is you are supporting and seeking to give legitimacy.’

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Although I knew most of this, it was great to see it presented so logically and factually.

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Interesting information to know. It always surprises me when people seem to walk around or are thinking about sex. Seems a bit unhinged to me. Time, privacy, place and person and all that. Mind you speaking as a woman once you have children the evidence is there isn’t it? Gasp.

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Hi Graham, not specifically AGP but similarly an elephant in room regarding BDSM/ Furry culture which seems to be a gateway for misogynistic behaviour and advocacy. I wanted to draw your attention to a post on BBC 3 (ie aimed at young people) website which NORMALISES BDSM (with surprise surprise, a young woman with MH issues as the submissive 🤢.)

'I use kitten play to give me body confidence' - BBC Three

PS I’m not trying to BBC bash - I am a huge advocate for the BBC as it was and am worried that its current capture and loss of balance risks permanent damage and excuse for defunding of a major cultural organisation in this country.

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A powerful and clearly presented article. Some of the comments on the original blog post are interesting, too, especially one by a woman who has worked as a caregiver for people with personality disorders. She often identifies PDs in trans people she encounters.

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Hi @Glinner, the last link to the article actually goes to rip4nutmeg’s Twitter On Andrea Long Chu.

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Momo has done the job better than me - here are all of the Sue Donym Medium posts, archived https://terfmomo.tumblr.com/post/641785409708392448/good-news-ladies-while-medium-may-have-banned

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Hi Graham - your "Please Follow Her" link -above- demonstrates that Sue, too, has been banned from Medium! ; I was looking fwd to reading her piece about "bad Trans stats concerning violence and death" - which was flashed up a week ago on Bret and Heather's YouTube session - so this banning must have been recent. Do you have the piece so that you can post it?

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Sue Donym now chucked off Medium too. Dark days.

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I see Medium has now suspended her account so it's good you posted this copy. Deserves sharing widely!

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To all appearances, “queer sex” is identical to garden variety heterosexual sex, except that the man is wearing a maid’s uniform and the woman is dressed as a Cub Scout.

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Here is the link https://web.archive.org/web/20201120231102/https://sue-donym.medium.com/the-transgender-movement-and-bad-stats-a-debunking-compilation-31760947b382 {if it keeps refreshing while you are trying to read it, then wait - it may settle down.. otherwise do a "highlight all" command, and copy-paste into Word or similar..}

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I found it on the Internet Archive! - a wonderful thing.. The article deals with the "trans murder epidemic" nonsense amongst other things.. how do we prompt Sue to put her valuable work up somewhere else, since Medium has deemed it too awful?

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