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I think we are going to have to go back to basics: where adults were adults and children were children. A young life of never hearing the word, NO, or demanding attention to the exclusion of all else is counter-productive for our youth. I listened to a group of children who had just been persuaded back to school after refusing to return after the pandemic. You genuinely would have thought that they had been evacuated from the front-line of a war zone, so hyperbolic were they. I do get it that many of the 'trans' kids are autistic or have been abused, and I feel heart sorry for them, but we have to make this stuff illegal. 'Transing' vulnerable children so that fetishistic and paraphiliac men can point to them and excuse their own behaviour is evil, no other word for it. Pure evil. I would have more respect for these people if they simply admitted that they are driven by sexual impulses. Many people would understand their personal, inner conflicts, but it is much harder to forgive their cruelty and sadistic behaviours when they show no regard for others - women, children, gay people. However, they want everything to be in the public square, and the sacrifice of children is the price they are willing for those kids and their families, and the wider public to pay in the name of fetish and autogynephilia. They are emotionally immature and utterly lacking in self-knowledge, or if they do acknowledge their own deficiencies in this area, are happy to see others suffer so that they can do as they please. The backlash will come, but we should all be careful that it does not involve innocent kids, 'detransitioners' and gay people, but place the blame securely on the shoulders of those who exploited this, and, also the enabler politicians, medical establishment (but not individual NHS staff, most of whom are opposed), influencers and impossibly wealthy global corporatists who financed it and some of the political parties, to push their agenda. For once, let the rage settle on those who are guilty.

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The male sense of sexual entitlement defines our entire culture and profoundly affects the entire species. Everything we do seems to be in service to predators and pedophiles.

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Mmm . . . . . rather an OTT statement, which seems rather unhelpful in this forum where I thought we are trying to establish equilibrium and fairness

Unless I have got the point of "The Glinner Update" wrong, in which case I apologise unreservedly

And, yes, I am a man

And, no, I am not in thrall to my genitalia

And, yes, I am also massively protective of women's rights

And, no, it's not cos my wife told me to write that - lol

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Lol? You may think it was OTT and you may also think it's funny to say your wife told you to write that, but none of this is actually funny. At all. It dismisses the genuine things that have been stated above. Equilibrium and fairness? I can give you my perspective:

I was touched by a stranger, a man, in public last night. A few times, then a few more times and I took a while to assess if it was accidental or deliberate as we were sitting next to each other with my back to him as I was turned towards my companion. I was upset at being touched by a random man just because he was drunk. After a few minutes of this 'bumping' into me I'd had enough and it had passed the point I was willing to dismiss it. I turned around and calmly and politely told him to stop and respect my personal space. He immediately launched an aggressive tirade at me. I was still sitting and stood my ground and his friends initially defended him - immediately and without actually realising what was going on like happens on nights out - then they seemed to realise and wake up and had to pull him back and away as he warmed up to his violent rant and gesticulations at my face. It was all the usual rubbish - and remarkably he denied it all, then said it was a mistake and he didn't mean it, then denied it, then blamed me for being a total bitch, then yelled that 'because of women like you, you see that's why men...' and ranted on sneering at me calling me a bitch and other nasty things. Blaming me for what? Everything bad that men do to us. Asking for it. It was only a minute or two, but it was scary and exploded within seconds. People stood staring with their mouths open. But I am used to this. Why? Because I had said no and asked him to respect my boundaries and my body. I said 'no', don't touch my body, I don't want you to and stood up to him. I laughed in the end, with the release of tension and adrenaline when it was safe to do so and he'd been pulled away. Yes, physically restrained. I've had decades of this. He was a sad and pathetic character. I was worried he may be going home to a partner and children. Who will he lash out at next? Has he before? Is he 'usually a nice man'?

He was totally enraged and bitterness, spite, hate and anger poured out of him as I had the temerity to say no and stop. And as a woman? The sheer audacity! It was lurking just underneath his surface ready to spill out, what, as I had 'provoked' him? Had I? By being out in public? By asserting myself and the boundary he had crossed? I was frightened but stood my ground as my training kicked in. As he was pulled away from me and restrained his friend mimed putting his head in his hands as he apologised for his friend.

This was male, very, very male. His friend, also male, was ashamed, apologised and reached out to pat my arm in an apology, which I appreciated. A man much more able to cope with his own emotions.

So no, I did not think that was OTT that statement. I am still shocked by the weary familiarity of that happening. I am older and it happens less that men feel they can touch me like a piece of meat, but boy am I sick of it and the men, always men, who do this.

'Not all men' and the fragile egos of men who refuse to accept this is how we live? Please try to think about why this is about you and your view of this as you outlined above.

You may not be in thrall, you may be massively protective of women's rights, but please don't think that gives you the authority to tell us you think that reaction was 'OTT' as above. I am dealing with rage and fury myself, and I wanted to punch him. I could have decked him, but that wasn't the solution to his boring, expected misogynistic entitlement.

I will try to not let this affect the way I interact with the men I see tomorrow as I go about my day. I will take each one at face value and until he gives me reason to feel wary and make judgments. But I will do that assessment in seconds as my safety depends on it. And it will be a man who does this and react in this particular bruised male ego manner.

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I'm so sorry for your experience which mirrors so many of my experience with strange men.

If men could only grasp the lengths that women go to in order to stay safe and avoid conflict with men. #MeToo was supposed to wake men up. Even though there were some over-the-top examples of women's claims, the vast majority reflected just how predatory men are as a class. I add 'as a class' because #NotAllMen is used to cancel out everything that women are trying to get across. It makes you wonder, why don't men get angry AT THE PREDATORS who give all men a bad name instead of silencing and raging at women pointing out their behaviour?!?!?! We know why. It's because men are entitled to treat women any way they want. It's sexual terrorism on a global scale. No women ever feels completely safe around any man.

Fundamentally, it's exhausting. Laws are being changed that erase women in language and in law. We aren't allowed to use words for our body parts or our reproductive experiences. IN LAW, no less! And this individual is oblivious to all of it. Once again, proving my point.

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Thank you. I appreciate that :-). Sad so many of your experiences mirror it, but why is that not such a surprise. Someone else said, oh his poor friend having to drag him away. Which was again, thinking of the poor men having to deal with the other not so nice men. I thought, arghhh, sorry to break it to you...how can anyone be that conveniently naive? I am a little sick of the 'oh I didn't realise'.

So they have the empathy and sympathy. I did say, have a word with your mate, mate! Maybe he would listen to him. Yes too, the exhaustion. I am amazed at the resilience and grit of many women's (and other) rights campaigners. And those who take it on the chin, not the #NotAllMen affronted types. There are many men I admire, some are domestic abuse campaigners as they lived in those houses as children or saw this happening and now campaign to stop it. And yes, wonky thinking and underlying unsavoury beliefs are ending up in changes to the law.

I think it's good to be able to say of unfortunate things, I'm ok now, this too will pass etc etc. And that was very minor. But it did shock me and how familiar it was then how it followed the same old patterns. I thought I was too old for this. And the sheer aggression. It's the cumulative impact. So many people seem so ready to take a pop over the slightest thing.

Something to make you smile: I went to open a door that's a bit stiff and needs a bit of a shove. A guy who'd been sitting nearby noticed, said can I open the door for you, and quick as a flash jumped up to open it as I said oh, thank you, then he said no problem. And that was that, it wasn't a line, he didn't expect anything, it wasn't for any other motive than to be a decent person as so many men are. Being around good people is a real salve for the soul!

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I desperately WANT to believe in the goodness of men, but the problem is that when women trust men and get abused, it's the WOMAN's fault, for trusting the man. So, women get blamed and shamed if they DON'T trust men and the get blamed and shamed if they DO trust men. It's not like the predators have a label on them. It's crazy-making. It's like reaching your hand into a cookie jar and finding one with a razor blade in it. NOT ALL COOKIES HAVE RAZOR BLADES, we're told. But we can't see the cookies in the jar before we put our hand in. Men don't get this. They just cannot fathom how much courage it takes for any woman to keep putting their 'hand in the cookie jar' in order to form a relationship with a man. It's only because women are hard-wired to mate with their oppressors and produce offspring. Otherwise, the human race would have gone extinct millions of years ago. Women would just avoid men who abused them until no women were left to have babies. Now, men think THEY are women and can have babies. Or the tech bros think they can invent computers and artificial wombs who make babies in which case, they can get rid of those pesky women who aren't submissive enough for them.

Would it be too much to ask that men become decent human beings and hold each other accountable for treating not only women and children with respect, but other men, too? Like stop going to war and consuming the Earth's resources to annihilate other countries. That would be good.

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It makes me physically sick reading this. How have these people managed to infiltrate pretty much every institution in the UK when it is blatantly obvious that what they are saying is utterly deranged?

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Jennifer Bilek’s research into the billionaires funding - astroturphing- this movement explains a lot! https://youtu.be/tLXdoqXbC6k

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Autogynophile adults rewrite their own childhoods to fulfill the ritual requirements of the "trans" identity. It was remarkable to hear Taitchell on Piers Morgan, saying he believes in changing sex (or did he say gender) but he does not believe in 47 or 147 genders. The word "disagree" came up. This is the one where Douglas Murray was constantly interrupted by Mr. T and another ideologue. The first reaction of a doctor, therapist, practitioner of mental health treatment should be to introduce a menu of suggested stress reducing practices, such as acupressure chiropractic, Feldenkrais physical therapy, horticulture therapy and hiking in nature. All while withdrawing from the internet addiction.

I am learning so much about the malpractice of these "experts" through the stories of trans widows who are contacting me. I'm starting to collect data, especially on the messaging these people are giving directly, in person, to the wives. These psychiatrically ill crossdressing men are telling all kinds of stories about "abuse" their wives commit and "abuse" of those who "misgender" them. This is validated, swallowed hook, line and sinker, and then put out into the world. This is DARVO on a mass scale. Trans widows are urged to contact me at uteheggengrasswidow.wordpress.com to add to our data set. No one studies us. We need data to challenge what the shrinks are saying. This is related to what's happening to children.

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Great work Ute!!

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Thanks, I appreciate if we can get the word out. Here's a butterfly short, just for fun.

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/pcGbjnGruFY

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Who knew?

The amazing Liz Fraser

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3blrRgNYtS0

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That "other idealogue" was an absolute idiot!

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I appreciate the work that you do, Ute! It's incredibly important!

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Please come to my channel and hear the 20 questions for trans widows to answer for the purpose of getting data on us:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_H4aDv-AmMk

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Oh. Finally realized why I haven’t yet used ‘my’ pronouns, or invented new more appropriate ones. Guess, slow on the uptake per usual, I just haven’t discovered my true, carefully hidden ’identity’ yet. When it’s ‘safe’ enough for me to do so, I’ll be sure to let you all know! Best of luck to all of you in your interminable ‘gender’ journeys ...

P.S. wonderful work KFP.

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My pronouns are up/yours

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As always, you are supremely succinct!

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😂 I canie call a spade a shovel , it’s not in my nature , but I should learn to keep my gob shut ( not going to happen any time soon )

Thank you

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And the older one gets, the less point one sees in keeping one's gob shut. I used to be so polite, keeping my thoughts to myself, and it pretty much just got me abuse. Perhaps it's my disabilities that make me far less patient!

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Sorry Susan , that was a very local thing to say

I’m always polite ( to a point) but at my age I take no shit from no one

I fell out with someone today who said her husband was off to the snp rally in Stirling

Gtf it was not an snp rally it was an auob rally ,totally different

Apologies folk totally o/t

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No words....what a complete load of old tosh

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I cannot tell you how angry this makes me!! Mermaids needs to be shut down. I collected my granddaughter from school on Friday she’s just turned eight and she asked me if I knew the swimmer Tom Daley was gay? She went on to say the teacher told the class this when she had her LGBT+ lesson! I have no issue with people being gay btw. Apparently some of the parents are up in arms because of course it was also mentioned that you may be born a boy/ girl but later on you can change that! I’ll be 70 next year and a retired nurse, many years looking after sick children. Before I leave this planet I hope to God people wake up and just leave the kids alone. Stonewall and Mermaids have a lot to answer for, just pure evil!

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Your granddaughter is so lucky to have you!

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Spreading Insanity Like A Cold is so apt it's funny! O!--- Geez! O!--- Eeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!

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So Mermaids managed to get through a whole hour of brainwashing and emotional blackmail without mentioning the "40%" myth or "gêñøçïdē" or "träñs son v dèåd daughter"? There must've been sublimal messages in there somewhere!!!

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Unfortunately they did make other outlandish suicide claims though.

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This must have been painfully hard to do KFP. You have my sympathy 😔

I feel overwhelmed with despair when I hear this rubbish is being vacuumed up by corporations without, it seems, much in the way of critical thinking or challenge.

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Congratulations to anyone who made it to the end of this 'training'.

I thought the description of gender as a "dimmer switch" was unintentionally revealing.

I certainly noticed the dimming effect on my brain, and decided to call it a day. An option that presumably was not open to the attendees.

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I've had to watch it multiple times!

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You deserve a medal!

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Interesting to hear that mermaids thought the GRR act in Scotland was such an important piece of legislation, when the rest of us were told it was just an administrative thing, wouldn't make any difference to anyone. And England didn't stop it, the Secretary of State for Scotland who is a member of the UK government stopped it - and thank goodness he did!

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I find the endless 'me, me, me' aspect of this crap nauseating. Are people really as comfortable with this as they appear to be? Are they oblivious? They need to get off their knees to this ideology and the people responsible for disseminating it, and stop expressing exaggerated gratitude for how much more they now know, etc. All they have learned from this organisation and others like them is how powerful their repulsive ideology is, and how standing up against it isn't a good idea.

How long is the investigation into Mermaids going to last? Surely, those involved are capable of appreciating that there is a degree of urgency over this and get on with it.

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Off piste, but has anyone seen the story of a dog's tracker subscription being cancelled because his GC journalist owner queried them producing a rainbow tracker cover. I took an interest as I have 3 cats with these collars. Peace of mind. When Tom had not come home at midnight last night I followed him round my neighbours gardens for an hour on my phone. (He eventually popped through the flap at 1.30 am) I generally boycott pride fetish companies, this is difficult because I am not aware of any suitable replacement trackers. Any way I feel the company needs to be named and shamed out there. Spread the word. https://www.spectator.co.uk/article/my-dog-has-been-cancelled-by-pride/

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I had to switch off when I heard the Scottish accent , I’ll need to brace myself for this one

The written word was hard enough to swallow

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Jeremy , i believe you tried to reply on wos

I’ve given up on that unfortunately as I’m sick to the back teeth of reading about shit that happened 300 odd years ago

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https://youtu.be/UO0Cg2MniV4

The kids will push back!! 👍🏾

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Well Done Murray!

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I always thought there was something oddly sexless about designations like "transgender" and "non-binary" and I just realised what the problem is. These designations seem to be free of any concept of RELATIONSHIP with others. The very expression "non-binary" severs any connection with a partner. Thus all of this trans talk seems to centre on the notion of an individual completely cut off from everyone else. It forces the individual into a solipsistic cell of constant self-regard in which depression is bound to result. No wonder there is a plague of mental anguish amongst the young.

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