I recently took advantage of a free legal clinic my employer held. When I asked whether I could be forced to use pronouns in an email signature, the attorney was very confused. So I started to explain and when the name "Lia Thomas" came out of my mouth, the super-nice young paralegal who did my intake snapped her laptop shut and ran right out of the room.
Recent conversations at work have made me realise that at least some of the individuals deciding our D&I strategy have: no idea what stonewall is or what it represents, no idea about the sex v gender debate, no idea about Maya, no idea about the ‘respect my sex if you want my x’ campaign. And of course this person thought pronouns are fine, just being kind. It is unbelievably difficult to explain this issue to people who need any issue explained to them in an exec summary of a few bullet points - which is how senior people at large firms operate. The board wants an overview not all the details. This is how the gender cult gets in to firms. Be kind is a neat bullet point whereas trying to explain why pronouns are offensive requires an essay. I realised that out of context I sounded mental when I was showing offensive that my employer uses the word gender instead of sex. I’m not sure how we get to these people if they are advised by cultists.
The company I work for is in the top 20 stonewall list. I’ve already had a disagreement with the diversity team about the trans policy they have implemented since it states that trans people can use the facilities they feel they identify with. I asked what risk assessments they had done but they stated that there was no evidence that there was any risk. They even tried to tell me that my sex was assigned at birth. On a recent survey I complained that they have ignored my right to dignity and privacy by implementing this policy. They have now requested that staff add their pronouns. Currently this is voluntary. I will never add my pronouns. I don’t have any. I was born female. It was observed at birth. If anyone queries that I will share this post with them. That is if I still have a job.
I’m so impressed with Anon’s letter. I only wish I could form such a reasoned and comprehensive response to this entire mess. Most often, I’m in a state of perpetual, wide-eyed horror at the nonsense unfolding all around.
The ongoing lack of basic journalistic rigour in professional news media grinds my gears. Auntie, a serial offender, has fallen far short of basic reporting standards with more coverage of stunning and brave Jamie Wallis MP.
'The first MP to come out as transgender has said he hopes to begin transitioning "as quickly as possible".'
'He advised other young people struggling with their gender identity to take their time discovering themselves and "don't feel rushed to pick up a label or view it in any way".'
How to further confuse the already bewildered. Sort it out as quickly as possible, but take your time. Well done BBC!
Anonymous' son is very lucky that this mother's not an idiot or desperate for a reality TV show. The son of a family friend was very "theatrical" as a boy and he's gone on to be a happy, successful, popular, theatrical man.
I shudder to think what pharmaceutical/surgical "cures" might have been "diagnosed" nowadays for his crime of not liking the correct toys, according to the Church of Gender.
" His gran describes him as ‘a little theatrical’."
Ladies and gentlemen, the most British understatement that ever Britished.
Jail me, sack me, cancel me, black list me...I too, will not be adding/stating any pronouns at work or anywhere else for that matter.
Yours
Hee/Haw & Bite/Me
I recently took advantage of a free legal clinic my employer held. When I asked whether I could be forced to use pronouns in an email signature, the attorney was very confused. So I started to explain and when the name "Lia Thomas" came out of my mouth, the super-nice young paralegal who did my intake snapped her laptop shut and ran right out of the room.
I will not now or ever put pronouns in my email signature- not as long as I have a hole in my arse
Great letter. I hope they read it. I hope you don’t mind but I’m going to use it as reference material as you’ve made so many pertinent points.
This is going to get the writer fast tracked into an HR thought rehabilitation course faster than s/he can say 'fuck that for a game of soldiers'
Recent conversations at work have made me realise that at least some of the individuals deciding our D&I strategy have: no idea what stonewall is or what it represents, no idea about the sex v gender debate, no idea about Maya, no idea about the ‘respect my sex if you want my x’ campaign. And of course this person thought pronouns are fine, just being kind. It is unbelievably difficult to explain this issue to people who need any issue explained to them in an exec summary of a few bullet points - which is how senior people at large firms operate. The board wants an overview not all the details. This is how the gender cult gets in to firms. Be kind is a neat bullet point whereas trying to explain why pronouns are offensive requires an essay. I realised that out of context I sounded mental when I was showing offensive that my employer uses the word gender instead of sex. I’m not sure how we get to these people if they are advised by cultists.
The company I work for is in the top 20 stonewall list. I’ve already had a disagreement with the diversity team about the trans policy they have implemented since it states that trans people can use the facilities they feel they identify with. I asked what risk assessments they had done but they stated that there was no evidence that there was any risk. They even tried to tell me that my sex was assigned at birth. On a recent survey I complained that they have ignored my right to dignity and privacy by implementing this policy. They have now requested that staff add their pronouns. Currently this is voluntary. I will never add my pronouns. I don’t have any. I was born female. It was observed at birth. If anyone queries that I will share this post with them. That is if I still have a job.
Glad I am retired because I would have no job...this pronoun/trans/cissssss ahhh never ever NO!
I’m so impressed with Anon’s letter. I only wish I could form such a reasoned and comprehensive response to this entire mess. Most often, I’m in a state of perpetual, wide-eyed horror at the nonsense unfolding all around.
That is truly amazing. So well explained and reasoned. Brilliant. I just read it out to my daughter and she agreed, and she is no dinosaur!
Excellent letter and good for sending to people unfamiliar with the details of the debate, or the be kind brigade, too.
Excellent letter. No doubt she was fired!
The ongoing lack of basic journalistic rigour in professional news media grinds my gears. Auntie, a serial offender, has fallen far short of basic reporting standards with more coverage of stunning and brave Jamie Wallis MP.
'The first MP to come out as transgender has said he hopes to begin transitioning "as quickly as possible".'
'He advised other young people struggling with their gender identity to take their time discovering themselves and "don't feel rushed to pick up a label or view it in any way".'
How to further confuse the already bewildered. Sort it out as quickly as possible, but take your time. Well done BBC!
Anonymous' son is very lucky that this mother's not an idiot or desperate for a reality TV show. The son of a family friend was very "theatrical" as a boy and he's gone on to be a happy, successful, popular, theatrical man.
I shudder to think what pharmaceutical/surgical "cures" might have been "diagnosed" nowadays for his crime of not liking the correct toys, according to the Church of Gender.
Absolutely ace article - thank you ❤️