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This is so unfair & unnecessary. It's also thoroughly dishonest. Your intentions in joining Her were absolutely obvious & Lewis' faux outrage is bloody nauseating. I hate to speak ill of another woman but I can't stand by while a good man & brilliant ally is denigrated so callously. What a spineless, self-serving, disingenuous piece of work. Graham, I hope you know you're loved & respected so very much. Your never-ending integrity & courage are an inspiration & you're a bloody good friend. Take care xxx

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I don’t know where you get your energy from Graham. The relentless attacks must be wearing. But please know you are supported and are fighting a good fight on behalf of those who do not have a platform to speak 👏👏

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thanks, Mel x

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Agreed. I say good on you Graham for calling them out. They are big girls and can handle being critiqued right back atcha. Everyone is a bit precious about men in wigs who were very funny 5 minutes ago. They still are. It's important for us to laugh at the absurdity.

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It's this screaming codependency that approaches Stockholm Syndrome that I see in these women that blows my mind, I'm wondering if that is their corresponding mental illness...that on some level they trade the visibility and sanctity of the real female victims of the TiM's for their own survival... that is literally what I grew up in, terror bonding of one parent to the parent who almost killed me. But her mind was so geared to survival that that was what her aim was reduced to.

Back in the old days of Alcoholics Anonymous, when they realized the wives were just as wacked as the drunkards they were trying to fix (of which I'm one so I can say it, sober by the grace of God), they started calling the wives 'co-alcoholics'. I'm starting to look at these women as 'co-transvestites' because they are so terror bonded to these men, they trade their own rights and all the rest of ours too right down the river for these guys...reptilian calculation, survival at any cost, they are not going to be kicked off the gender-woo island.

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Graham is experiencing the pressure via mobbing and gaslighting women WHO SAY ANYTHING experience to make us all accept perversions and bending of reality. Can be enraging and do ones head in. It’s to force compliance to ones own abuse and erasure and really is a weapon of war or of jailers in prisons or concentration camps. Nothing new and damn disappointing but at least it’s obvious and yes you must publicly object to it and push back which most women are to beaten down or busy to do when it constantly happens to them having their legal and human rights erased. Clearly objecting or acting in self defence has somehow been lost in the taming of humanity to ensure compliance to serve.

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In other words it goes deeper than them having no sense of humour.

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How disappointing. As if anyone in the transactivist movement will care about her newfound sensitivity to autogynephiles.

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of course the AGP laugh and laugh and laugh about their female defenders. I'm sure it's quite the in-joke with them.

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Does this woman not care about lesbians being told to accept men? It would seem she's another #bekind virtue signalling handmaid that the LGb can do without.

You made perfect sense Graham she does not.

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the creepy White Savior complex of the wokes is apparently renewed seasonally, yesterday's homophobia victim is today's transphobe, bigoted oppressor...does this mean we can look forward to a time in the future when the woke movement will revile communism and islam like it fetishizes them at the moment...

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I subscribe to her Blue Stocking blog but no more. I thought she was better than that. Awful.

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If I had a few hundred million pounds I would spend a good ten or 15 million on getting a case into the high courts to prove that men cannot be women, that Brains are not separate from bodies and that predatory trans men who want to be called a woman have the same sexual motives as other predatory men. I would spend millions and millions just to get this nonsense ended

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I dream this exactly..and would delight in wasting their money over and over again

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Can we not start a lottery syndicate with the express intention of winning to fund just this? I'm sick of it all. Something 'peaks' or 'triggers' me every day and it's really getting to me. God knows how Graham finds the strength - but thank goodness he does.

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Please keep fighting, there must be a change coming, the pictures you posted show the ludicrous way men are exploiting/invalidating woman's rights and then, receiving validation from a woman!!

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I do so detest turncoats. I don’t know how you stand it all - absolutely vile relentless bullying. When this ideology implodes these people are all going to hide and rewrite their history. Shameful.

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Honestly Graham. I don't know where you get the patience. I'd have punched someone by now. I hope you take breaks away from this stuff to think of other things and take care of your mental health x 💕

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FFS!! Not again!!

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"he often disregards the pronouns that they use"....she wrote. That's so disrespectful 🙄

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and her link is stephanie fucking hayden

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Imagine an article criticising someone who is anti monarchy: "he often disregards the titles that they use"...

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is that one of those 'vexatious litigants'? I love that terminology, we don't have anything like that in the US...I have a porn industry shill stalking me that I had to block on twitter who is one of those, sues literally everyone trying to get something done about child porn and the non-consensual porn (read: rape tapes) that they make so much money off of...in the States we don't have that wonderful label for people, I think 'litigious' is the best we could come up with

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Yes, just read it now. Ugh, this "pronouns they use" nonsense needs to die in a ditch. EVERYONE "uses" pronouns because we need them to refer to other people, ourselves, animals and objects. Unless a person refers to him- or herself in the third person like Terry from Brooklyn Nine Nine, the only pronouns s/he would "use" for him/herself are "I, me, my, mine, myself". These aren't "pronouns they use", it's "pronouns they wish others to use when talking about them rather than to them".

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I think this is a terrible headline. I have not read HL’s article but even if it rightly angers you there’s a viciousness about the headline that demeans you. I’ve never had a problem with you mocking or eviscerating any bloke spouting genderbollox but this makes me very uncomfortable.

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classic "concern trolling".

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definition here plus tons of others since they are showing up more often of late https://www.ipredator.co/troll/

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TBH I never really trusted her - something didn't sit quite right with me about her and now I know why. You shouldn't have to put up with that sh*t as anyone with half a brain knows that you are a decent human being with an extremely good heart. We don't always agree but you have my respect and thanks. Thank you for being more of a journalist than the rest of them put together.

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Dearest Graham- I am so sorry you do not deserve all this vitriol - Magdalena would have loved what you did with the site x

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I have just read the article in question. I am not sure what HL's thesis is - it's early here and I haven't had a lot of sleep, to be fair, but it's a very strange piece. It reminds me of the equally weird hit piece The Atlantic put out in relation to Ovarit a while ago. But the article would have lost nothing if she had not mentioned you. I don't blame you for being angry about this

I thought it was interesting that HL contrasts her (misleading) description of Graham's writing on here with "mere dissenters from the liberal orthodoxy such as Jesse Singal, the author of a deeply researched and fact-checked Atlantic cover story on youth transition". I think the swipe at you, Graham, is about going into bat for her fellow journo and crack detective in the Tone Police, old mate Jesse.

I've noticed this in the Australian media too - one of the Canberra press gallery gets a serve on Twitter, a blog or YT from someone outside the clique over a mendacious, ludicrous or misleading take and they close ranks. It's almost hilarious to see the swarm of blue ticks congratulating each other and commiserating over the "sewer rats" (direct quote from one pundit). Then out come the thinkpieces conflating legitimate criticism and genuine arguments in response to their reporting with abuse and harassment, which smear the critics either individually (if the person has a large enough following or is well known) of collectively.

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