T’was ever thus Irish TRA Aiden Comerford’s reign of terror will end when the Cass report comes in and Mermaids are exposed as the castration cult that they are. After that, he’ll find it harder to spread disinformation, smear dead lesbians, get sued by gay men
But yeah, behaviour like this and gloating about it, shows that this has very little to do with the human rights of vulnerable minorities, and very much to do with the politics of men's rights to dominate women.
He must be disappointed with challenges that end in silence, but obviously not as disappointed as when he doesn't get one at all. That must mean a lot of unnecessary trips to the women's lavatory, willing at least one woman to be visibility uncomfortable, better still, intimidated, and best of all, a woman who is prepared to ask him why he is in a woman's space. I would love it if just one of these encounters ended with him feeling intimidated, or perhaps being forcibly removed by women who are not prepared to take shit from this prick.
Yes, lots of fawning and supporting from women who are being enthusiastically encouraged/forced to believe that rolling over for men in a slightly different way is progressive and inclusive, regardless that it's increasingly excluding them. Later Millennial and Gen Z reimagining of Gen X feminism. As in not feminism.
Ahh what a beautiful photo of you, Helen Staniland, and your lovely dad! He must've been so proud of you. You are such a warrior of all things good and right. We appreciate you so much :)
Ok, I've just read a Tweet from GenderGP and I burst out laughing:
"It is often an unwanted presence that comes alongside the beauty of being trans, but not every trans or gender non-conforming person has gender dysphoria".
Then in massive pink and blue lettering, it says:
"Not all trans people have gender dysphoria".
So someone who is happy enough with their identity is now trans.
So that's most people. Most people are trans.
I keep seeing "gender non-conforming and trans" slipped into the same sentence together. I haven't noticed them do that before. They have never been clear about the difference. Could that be because they're transing perfectly healthy non-conforming children? Hmm.....
Serious gibberish. An "unwanted presence"? Like some sort of spirit? It "comes alongside"? Are they at all speaking English? I've no idea really how to translate this gibberish but let me take a stab at it.
We've experienced the revelation that gender nonconformity in most cases doesn't mean someone is trans but can simply mean for example that they are gay/lesbian, or even just heterosexuals who have found gender stereotypes to be meaningless and pay no need to them in lifestyle choices. But for their sakes because it is so beautiful to be trans we assume such people most likely are trans or would like to be.
Yes, you're spot on. These aren't gender non-conforming children, they are sacred beings. What child doesn't want to be special, especially a child who is feeling insecure?
An "unwanted presence" sounds like an evil spirit. Reminds me of the gender dysphoria monster from some picture book I saw recently. I couldn't bear to look for long. But I assumed that the message is: gender dysphoria is out to get you!?
Enticing children into anxiety (and a lifetime of medication) by persuading them to adopt a special identity is so evil. It's an identity so special that not even adults can comprehend it. That must feel so empowering for a child.
I was laughing at that tweet last night but I'm upset and outraged at the harm done to these kids. My friend said to me a little while ago - speaking of men in women's sport - that children need trans role models, basically to know it's ok to be trans. Apart from the obvious issues of men in women's sport, it seems like people are very susceptible to the idea of "spreading awareness" about a cause. People forget to check if the message is a good one. When it comes to "being trans", we're spreading awareness of non-comformity being extraordinary, something to be declared to the world, we're spreading awareness of rejecting our bodies, we're spreading awareness of drugs and surgeries. If we do this, we're spreading awareness of a made up phenomenon - spreading the social contagion in other words!
Some adults, in trying to be woke and/or kind, are also spreading this social contagion! And if they're not spreading it, they are at least complicit in it spreading!
"Spreading awareness" is apparently a full-time job in the U.S. You don't actually do anything to help actual people, you just "spread awareness." If you have a major health crisis, e.g., cancer, and you don't have five different insurance plans -- and perhaps even if you do -- you will feel a deep pain in your wallet and be petted by those "spreading awareness," but they will do nothing to help you financially.
Crikey, the beardos are legion! I presume that they are educated, sensitive humans who deplore crimes against humanity. Why are they so beholden to the trance? They are not the average pudgy, greasy incel. It would be interesting to find out why this particular group are so keen to garbage women's hard earned rights. I can only think it must be some kind of male insecurity or some deep shame misogyny connected to porn. If the world goes to shit, these guys know they can't fight against stronger men. What's going on with this clearly identified group???
Thinks he is a “Material girl in a material world.”
And this man studied biology? What the hell is going on in the minds of these men? Obviously, cult-think obliterates reason and deduction, but wow, the disconnect is startling.
The ones in the law, science and medicine I find most chilling. The ones secreted away in upper levels of government and departments like the Home Office and our Armed Services. Their psyches seem to be split or fragmented in even more ways to enable them to promote and foster the sicker narcissistic parts and push those to prominence. They use facts and logic of one type of thinking and analysis to mask these other lurid aspects. Then they reveal their 'gender secret' and people are so blinded they cheer that too. That they can do both of these 'types' of belief when convenient means they can shout, but I am a lawyer/biologist/geneticist/gynaecologist and so I must be right! I have authority and that must extend to my gender fetish which must therefore be correct! That borrowed authority gets them far. Other misogynist men then respect them as men, so bestow the name of women on them, to congratulate them for 'being so brave' as to risk losing all power and social capital by taking a woman's role. Nothing more weak and unappealing in society as a 'woman's role' now is there. Oops they just showed their thinking and where the power does lie.
The AGP aspect of men's personalities really does seem to dominate, even whilst retaining a veneer of professional authority. And Stonewall Mermaids et al are feeding this and poisoning every public well to normalise it. The LARPing as AGPs some women are doing is mind-blowing. Sociopaths enlisting psychopaths to further their goals. Or is it the psychopaths using the sociopaths? Who are the useful idiots. If only the Psych professions weren't so captured, built on huge egos and full of pathological personalities we might be discussing that more.
Aiden Comerford thinks he's am ally becuase "abortion is great?" Really? He just doesn't get it. Women don't think abortion is "great" - we think that it is sometimes necessary for a variety of reasons. People like him just haven't got a clue.
Me too. So many red flags. Like this one. Why be so flippant about abortion? When I was younger I knew a man who thought that abortion was great because it meant he'd never have to pay child support. I've not met a woman yet who thinks abortion is a light consideration.
It’s not a man’s body that would have to undergo such a procedure, perhaps that’s why that attitude prevails. Many men, and women find it a subject very difficult to even talk about, let alone make such throwaway comments.
Exactly Jan. It's funny how women get that and not toxic men. It's not their body. It's also not their spaces and not their rights they are being so flippant with.
I just read the Prospect article that Maya tweeted about. I should have had breakfast first. Hogwash, bilge and a waste of an opportunity. If Prospect really wanted to invite a fair discussion why would they let someone rehash the same old propaganda that got us to this state. Isn't there anyone on the Trans side that can up with something new? Of course they cannot because all their demands are unreasonable. You can't have a fair discussion with unreasonable, irrational, and to put it plainly, stupid people.
Did you read the comments below the article? Laughably, all but one agree with your assessment. The problem with Moore's article begins with his admission that he's father of a trans child (although he doesn't specify the age). Impossible for him to be neutral on the subject.
I did. It looks like even Prospect's readers are aware of the issues. As for Moore, he allowed/supported his daughter's transition and I guess he has to believe and reiterate the propaganda otherwise he has just supported a horrible experiment on her. I wonder how he will feel when he finally confronts the truth.
Suddenly, Owen Jones finds the whole thing boring and posts a thread you can read "if you even care." Previously, it was important enough to contact David Baddiel and educate him on who he should and shouldn't follow on twitter, but now that the words "IPSO guidelines" are being invoked, Owen no longer finds it a compelling subject. How curious.
How is he going to respond to the Tavistock Court Case? Feigning boredom at 1000 stories of vulnerable kids getting sterilised?
‘All the misogynistic horror of Catholicism’. And then some! At least they only castrated young boys for the choirs. Now, it’s offered to any gay or autistic boy who gets caught up in cult thought.
When was that.?. I'm a lifelong practicing Catholic and we have several openly gay men in our congregation ,all of whom had same sex partners that they lived with for years and all of them are elderly now.
"The Dutch Roman Catholic Church 'castrated at least 10 boys’ who were surgically castrated "to get rid of homosexuality" while in the care of the Dutch Roman Catholic Church in the 1950s. According to many published reports. (link below)
"Which bring me to this, that the surgical removal of testicles was regarded as a treatment for homosexuality in Ireland prior to the 1970s. Was known and approved of with the blessing of the Irish Catholic Church. Dozen of Irish boys were surgically castrated "to get rid of homosexuality" while in the care of the Irish Catholic Church. These boys were raped by Clerics, and when the frightened boys reported their rapes to other Clerics, or others, like their Parents, they, the boys were accused of both been liars and deviants, (homosexuals). Many of the boys who made the accusations in the Religious run Institutions were transferred to selected Lunatic Asylums, like The Central Mental Hospital, (Central Criminal Lunatic Asylum) in Dundrum in Dublin or similar mental institutions in the Irish Republic.''
And all I can think of is the sixty-something woman who told the man in the women's toilets to get out! And he did! Another word for silence is fearful passivity; many women have never seen a fierce woman in action, so have no role models to emulate.
Exactly. He may have been chased out, he may have spoken to no one and been in there on his own, he may have been ignored or women and girls avoided him, stayed in cubicles, or waited until he'd gone in or left. It may have unfolded very differently and I don't trust a word a man crowing about being in a women's toilets says. It sounds like a fantasy to show him 'teaching' a nasty woman how he's supreme and he stunned her into silence as she had no 'come back'. No mate. It's confusion, horror, fear, intimidation, embarassment and trauma that means people are silenced. And anger. Sheer bored and familiar anger at the gall of these men. Who are oblivious or who enjoy and parade their entitlement. Or we choose to remain silent as we know any attempt to defend ourselves will send them ever more insane. That's risky and we're unlikely to do it unless we have back up, protection and witnesses. He really is choosing to not understand what consent is for his own enjoyment.
Men who get into these types of confrontations have revealed what they're there to do. And it's not pee.
I have avoided and dealt with confrontation my whole life - most of us are fairly good at spotting and avoiding it. That we are having the risk of more layers of deliberate confrontation and aggression introduced into our single sex spaces and all women's services cannot be ignored.
Very well put. I have never avoided confrontation, just met it head on which has served me well. But I never worked a middle-class job so never had to fear retribution from my bosses or anyone else.
Men always take silence for consent -- I'm thinking Clarence Thomas here. He harassed Anita Hill and because she just said "mmmm," his attitude was that there was nothing wrong with what he was doing and she was not objecting. I never want anyone to think I am going along with their utter crap, whether it's this brand of crap or racist crap or whatever.
As I deal with the symptoms of potential for detached retina, travelling to be in good emergency room zone and hopefully see specialist tomorrow, I am hearing of the extreme shortage of health care appointments for asthma, chronic immune diagnoses, also just regular check-ups--months of waiting, use of ER for what a doctor would normally take care of. Meanwhile, a child who ideates "wrong body" will immediately be given a shot or scrip at Planned Parenthood. Suddenly all of my friends who know I'm waiting to see a specialist tell me they've been waiting months to be seen for worrying symptoms. The situation in the States is out of control. Does no one tweet about not being able to get in to see a doctor about run-of-the mill conditions now? Or is everyone bannd for that, too?
Ute Hegge, author, In the Curated Woods, True Tales from a Grass Widow (iuniverse, 2022)
Gee, I think you should be able to see an eye surgeon without waiting for such a serious condition. I had cataract surgery and a patient in the waiting room told me how fantastically our surgeon had dealt with his detached retina on the spur of the moment. Dr Morgan, Belfast, Maine, a doctor I can actually recommend.
Thanks, Susan. I'm back and it is part of the process of aging. If symptoms get worse suddenly, I will make my way down to Dr. Norman Saffra on Long Island! It was amazing to reconnect with the doctor who saved my son's eye after the terrible 1994 injury on a playground.
Now I can be thankful for further diagnostic progress, and learn that flashes and floaters are not always a sign of retinal detachment.
The gentrified sections of Brooklyn are full of the woo! I'm the one noticing 2 women who seem to be mothers, and together, one with purple hair, the other clown-look rainbow corkscrew curls, both seem to have disappeared their own breasts. I know what small breasts look like, been appreciating mine more as I age and gravity's a factor. The odd, super-flat chest of surgical "non-binariness" reminds me of my old Ginny-dolls, the pre-Barbie playthings whose clothing I learned fastening snaps on. Their slightly barrel chests were girlish and innocent. The purple and rainbow hair moms were acting outside of any normal parental behavior I've ever seen, louder, bouncier and overt-ier than their little kids. Documenting it on a camera, of course, to post on Tik Tok I imagine.
Ute Heggen, gratefully seeing this crazy world with both eyes, flashes diminishing
I lived in "Park Slope" in the 1980s (actually on the very edge in a mixed neighborhood), and I can just imagine what the neighborhood is like now. Fortunately, here in Maine people still look pretty normal though you see the kool-aid hair regularly in places like Belfast. But that is so weird about the "parents" acting more childish than the children. I can just picture these kids growing up, having to behave like adults, being very serious, and seeking out an extremely conventional life!
(Btw, I've had floaters for years, probably due to proofreading 1,000 pages a week since that's when I got them. Glad your flashes are diminishing!)
Thanks so much, I thank all who have reached out during my crisis with my retinal condition. I've connected now with the surgeon who saved my son's eye after the injury, detailed in my memoir. It's been cathartic and healing somehow. I saw monarch butterfly #76 for the season upon return home.
I'm quite concerned regarding the children of "adults" who haven't had puberty, or are now on cross-sex hormones + all the accompanying pharma. They are distracted and overly political. The kids who are naturally strong probably will drift towards tradition. I just saw part of an interview Helen Joyce did with Jordan Peterson on his YT channel, they make the same comments; Peterson has the narcissism of twitter mobs pegged.
Meanwhile, everyone join Elaine Miller's YT channel, That Elaine Miller. Her reaction to the Edinburgh Fringe mob is deep and relevant. Also, Chloe Cole responds to the hit piece on her, recently "disappeared" from Forbes at Colin Wright's substack, Reality's Last Stand.
Ute Heggen, author, In the Curated Woods, True Tales from a Grass Widow (iuniverse, 2022)
Dr Emily M Arndt: a man who thinks a woman’s silence amounts to consent.
I don’t think people can change sex, but guys like this aren’t even trying.
But yeah, behaviour like this and gloating about it, shows that this has very little to do with the human rights of vulnerable minorities, and very much to do with the politics of men's rights to dominate women.
They are very trying
He must be disappointed with challenges that end in silence, but obviously not as disappointed as when he doesn't get one at all. That must mean a lot of unnecessary trips to the women's lavatory, willing at least one woman to be visibility uncomfortable, better still, intimidated, and best of all, a woman who is prepared to ask him why he is in a woman's space. I would love it if just one of these encounters ended with him feeling intimidated, or perhaps being forcibly removed by women who are not prepared to take shit from this prick.
He feels he wins either way. The Transmaidens fawn and support, the real women stay quiet, and probably get away from him as quickly as possible.
It’s all about survival.
Yes, lots of fawning and supporting from women who are being enthusiastically encouraged/forced to believe that rolling over for men in a slightly different way is progressive and inclusive, regardless that it's increasingly excluding them. Later Millennial and Gen Z reimagining of Gen X feminism. As in not feminism.
He’s the perfect example of ‘I am who I say I am, and there’s nothing you can do about it’
Creepy man!
Ahh what a beautiful photo of you, Helen Staniland, and your lovely dad! He must've been so proud of you. You are such a warrior of all things good and right. We appreciate you so much :)
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The pronoun thing...the queen died she did not have a sex change. Charles is another person!
You think surely they are just acting dumb but then they think men can become women!
And in any case "King" is not a pronoun. I assure you these people are not simply acting dumb.
Dumb sums it up perfectly!
"Is there any famous ‘trans parent’ who isn’t either a psychopathic bully, a fantasist or a liar?"
Paging StillTish...
This whole ideology is a breeding ground for abusive parents! Parents with additional needs too... I worry about them and their children :(
Ok, I've just read a Tweet from GenderGP and I burst out laughing:
"It is often an unwanted presence that comes alongside the beauty of being trans, but not every trans or gender non-conforming person has gender dysphoria".
Then in massive pink and blue lettering, it says:
"Not all trans people have gender dysphoria".
So someone who is happy enough with their identity is now trans.
So that's most people. Most people are trans.
I keep seeing "gender non-conforming and trans" slipped into the same sentence together. I haven't noticed them do that before. They have never been clear about the difference. Could that be because they're transing perfectly healthy non-conforming children? Hmm.....
It's gibberish.
Serious gibberish. An "unwanted presence"? Like some sort of spirit? It "comes alongside"? Are they at all speaking English? I've no idea really how to translate this gibberish but let me take a stab at it.
We've experienced the revelation that gender nonconformity in most cases doesn't mean someone is trans but can simply mean for example that they are gay/lesbian, or even just heterosexuals who have found gender stereotypes to be meaningless and pay no need to them in lifestyle choices. But for their sakes because it is so beautiful to be trans we assume such people most likely are trans or would like to be.
Yes, you're spot on. These aren't gender non-conforming children, they are sacred beings. What child doesn't want to be special, especially a child who is feeling insecure?
An "unwanted presence" sounds like an evil spirit. Reminds me of the gender dysphoria monster from some picture book I saw recently. I couldn't bear to look for long. But I assumed that the message is: gender dysphoria is out to get you!?
Enticing children into anxiety (and a lifetime of medication) by persuading them to adopt a special identity is so evil. It's an identity so special that not even adults can comprehend it. That must feel so empowering for a child.
I was laughing at that tweet last night but I'm upset and outraged at the harm done to these kids. My friend said to me a little while ago - speaking of men in women's sport - that children need trans role models, basically to know it's ok to be trans. Apart from the obvious issues of men in women's sport, it seems like people are very susceptible to the idea of "spreading awareness" about a cause. People forget to check if the message is a good one. When it comes to "being trans", we're spreading awareness of non-comformity being extraordinary, something to be declared to the world, we're spreading awareness of rejecting our bodies, we're spreading awareness of drugs and surgeries. If we do this, we're spreading awareness of a made up phenomenon - spreading the social contagion in other words!
Some adults, in trying to be woke and/or kind, are also spreading this social contagion! And if they're not spreading it, they are at least complicit in it spreading!
"Spreading awareness" is apparently a full-time job in the U.S. You don't actually do anything to help actual people, you just "spread awareness." If you have a major health crisis, e.g., cancer, and you don't have five different insurance plans -- and perhaps even if you do -- you will feel a deep pain in your wallet and be petted by those "spreading awareness," but they will do nothing to help you financially.
Mermaids back in the day: Goes into schools to teach a nonsense ideology to children to encourage them to think they might be in the wrong body.
Mermaids in recent years: "Ahhh we're so busy, we're overrun! Kids everywhere!"
Crikey, the beardos are legion! I presume that they are educated, sensitive humans who deplore crimes against humanity. Why are they so beholden to the trance? They are not the average pudgy, greasy incel. It would be interesting to find out why this particular group are so keen to garbage women's hard earned rights. I can only think it must be some kind of male insecurity or some deep shame misogyny connected to porn. If the world goes to shit, these guys know they can't fight against stronger men. What's going on with this clearly identified group???
https://thenewbacklash.blogspot.com/p/12-if-maleness-is-unnameable-so-is-male.html
Pronouns, Beardy Boys and flags, de rigeur for women haters.
Dr. “Emily”.
Thinks he is a “Material girl in a material world.”
And this man studied biology? What the hell is going on in the minds of these men? Obviously, cult-think obliterates reason and deduction, but wow, the disconnect is startling.
The ones in the law, science and medicine I find most chilling. The ones secreted away in upper levels of government and departments like the Home Office and our Armed Services. Their psyches seem to be split or fragmented in even more ways to enable them to promote and foster the sicker narcissistic parts and push those to prominence. They use facts and logic of one type of thinking and analysis to mask these other lurid aspects. Then they reveal their 'gender secret' and people are so blinded they cheer that too. That they can do both of these 'types' of belief when convenient means they can shout, but I am a lawyer/biologist/geneticist/gynaecologist and so I must be right! I have authority and that must extend to my gender fetish which must therefore be correct! That borrowed authority gets them far. Other misogynist men then respect them as men, so bestow the name of women on them, to congratulate them for 'being so brave' as to risk losing all power and social capital by taking a woman's role. Nothing more weak and unappealing in society as a 'woman's role' now is there. Oops they just showed their thinking and where the power does lie.
The AGP aspect of men's personalities really does seem to dominate, even whilst retaining a veneer of professional authority. And Stonewall Mermaids et al are feeding this and poisoning every public well to normalise it. The LARPing as AGPs some women are doing is mind-blowing. Sociopaths enlisting psychopaths to further their goals. Or is it the psychopaths using the sociopaths? Who are the useful idiots. If only the Psych professions weren't so captured, built on huge egos and full of pathological personalities we might be discussing that more.
Aiden Comerford thinks he's am ally becuase "abortion is great?" Really? He just doesn't get it. Women don't think abortion is "great" - we think that it is sometimes necessary for a variety of reasons. People like him just haven't got a clue.
I get such bad vibes from him …….
Me too. So many red flags. Like this one. Why be so flippant about abortion? When I was younger I knew a man who thought that abortion was great because it meant he'd never have to pay child support. I've not met a woman yet who thinks abortion is a light consideration.
It’s not a man’s body that would have to undergo such a procedure, perhaps that’s why that attitude prevails. Many men, and women find it a subject very difficult to even talk about, let alone make such throwaway comments.
Exactly Jan. It's funny how women get that and not toxic men. It's not their body. It's also not their spaces and not their rights they are being so flippant with.
I just read the Prospect article that Maya tweeted about. I should have had breakfast first. Hogwash, bilge and a waste of an opportunity. If Prospect really wanted to invite a fair discussion why would they let someone rehash the same old propaganda that got us to this state. Isn't there anyone on the Trans side that can up with something new? Of course they cannot because all their demands are unreasonable. You can't have a fair discussion with unreasonable, irrational, and to put it plainly, stupid people.
Did you read the comments below the article? Laughably, all but one agree with your assessment. The problem with Moore's article begins with his admission that he's father of a trans child (although he doesn't specify the age). Impossible for him to be neutral on the subject.
I did. It looks like even Prospect's readers are aware of the issues. As for Moore, he allowed/supported his daughter's transition and I guess he has to believe and reiterate the propaganda otherwise he has just supported a horrible experiment on her. I wonder how he will feel when he finally confronts the truth.
Totally agree.
Suddenly, Owen Jones finds the whole thing boring and posts a thread you can read "if you even care." Previously, it was important enough to contact David Baddiel and educate him on who he should and shouldn't follow on twitter, but now that the words "IPSO guidelines" are being invoked, Owen no longer finds it a compelling subject. How curious.
How is he going to respond to the Tavistock Court Case? Feigning boredom at 1000 stories of vulnerable kids getting sterilised?
‘All the misogynistic horror of Catholicism’. And then some! At least they only castrated young boys for the choirs. Now, it’s offered to any gay or autistic boy who gets caught up in cult thought.
Catholics did it to gay boys too:
https://www.tuambabies.org/news/castration-and-the-catholic-church
So dark. Diabolical.
When was that.?. I'm a lifelong practicing Catholic and we have several openly gay men in our congregation ,all of whom had same sex partners that they lived with for years and all of them are elderly now.
"The Dutch Roman Catholic Church 'castrated at least 10 boys’ who were surgically castrated "to get rid of homosexuality" while in the care of the Dutch Roman Catholic Church in the 1950s. According to many published reports. (link below)
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/netherlands/9153676/Dutch-Roman-Catholic-Church-castrated-at-least-10-boys.html
"Which bring me to this, that the surgical removal of testicles was regarded as a treatment for homosexuality in Ireland prior to the 1970s. Was known and approved of with the blessing of the Irish Catholic Church. Dozen of Irish boys were surgically castrated "to get rid of homosexuality" while in the care of the Irish Catholic Church. These boys were raped by Clerics, and when the frightened boys reported their rapes to other Clerics, or others, like their Parents, they, the boys were accused of both been liars and deviants, (homosexuals). Many of the boys who made the accusations in the Religious run Institutions were transferred to selected Lunatic Asylums, like The Central Mental Hospital, (Central Criminal Lunatic Asylum) in Dundrum in Dublin or similar mental institutions in the Irish Republic.''
If that bald bloke who calls himself "Emily" is a woman, I'm a f***ing zebra, I mean wtaf????
He's a nasty, bullying piece of sh*t. If he was challenged by a female boxer I'm damn sure he wouldn't hang around to enjoy the fearful silence.
Water and hay in your stall, ready when you are 😂
See that 'Dr Emily', I would boot him right in the baws if he tried that shit in front of me. Silence is not an option.
And all I can think of is the sixty-something woman who told the man in the women's toilets to get out! And he did! Another word for silence is fearful passivity; many women have never seen a fierce woman in action, so have no role models to emulate.
That’s a ‘woman’ who would hit a …. Woman!
Yeah. OK then. 🤣🤣
Did they though? Because I would have said : " No you're not. Get out!"
Exactly. He may have been chased out, he may have spoken to no one and been in there on his own, he may have been ignored or women and girls avoided him, stayed in cubicles, or waited until he'd gone in or left. It may have unfolded very differently and I don't trust a word a man crowing about being in a women's toilets says. It sounds like a fantasy to show him 'teaching' a nasty woman how he's supreme and he stunned her into silence as she had no 'come back'. No mate. It's confusion, horror, fear, intimidation, embarassment and trauma that means people are silenced. And anger. Sheer bored and familiar anger at the gall of these men. Who are oblivious or who enjoy and parade their entitlement. Or we choose to remain silent as we know any attempt to defend ourselves will send them ever more insane. That's risky and we're unlikely to do it unless we have back up, protection and witnesses. He really is choosing to not understand what consent is for his own enjoyment.
Men who get into these types of confrontations have revealed what they're there to do. And it's not pee.
I have avoided and dealt with confrontation my whole life - most of us are fairly good at spotting and avoiding it. That we are having the risk of more layers of deliberate confrontation and aggression introduced into our single sex spaces and all women's services cannot be ignored.
Very well put. I have never avoided confrontation, just met it head on which has served me well. But I never worked a middle-class job so never had to fear retribution from my bosses or anyone else.
Men always take silence for consent -- I'm thinking Clarence Thomas here. He harassed Anita Hill and because she just said "mmmm," his attitude was that there was nothing wrong with what he was doing and she was not objecting. I never want anyone to think I am going along with their utter crap, whether it's this brand of crap or racist crap or whatever.
As I deal with the symptoms of potential for detached retina, travelling to be in good emergency room zone and hopefully see specialist tomorrow, I am hearing of the extreme shortage of health care appointments for asthma, chronic immune diagnoses, also just regular check-ups--months of waiting, use of ER for what a doctor would normally take care of. Meanwhile, a child who ideates "wrong body" will immediately be given a shot or scrip at Planned Parenthood. Suddenly all of my friends who know I'm waiting to see a specialist tell me they've been waiting months to be seen for worrying symptoms. The situation in the States is out of control. Does no one tweet about not being able to get in to see a doctor about run-of-the mill conditions now? Or is everyone bannd for that, too?
Ute Hegge, author, In the Curated Woods, True Tales from a Grass Widow (iuniverse, 2022)
uteheggengrasswidow.wordpress.com
Gee, I think you should be able to see an eye surgeon without waiting for such a serious condition. I had cataract surgery and a patient in the waiting room told me how fantastically our surgeon had dealt with his detached retina on the spur of the moment. Dr Morgan, Belfast, Maine, a doctor I can actually recommend.
Thanks, Susan. I'm back and it is part of the process of aging. If symptoms get worse suddenly, I will make my way down to Dr. Norman Saffra on Long Island! It was amazing to reconnect with the doctor who saved my son's eye after the terrible 1994 injury on a playground.
Now I can be thankful for further diagnostic progress, and learn that flashes and floaters are not always a sign of retinal detachment.
The gentrified sections of Brooklyn are full of the woo! I'm the one noticing 2 women who seem to be mothers, and together, one with purple hair, the other clown-look rainbow corkscrew curls, both seem to have disappeared their own breasts. I know what small breasts look like, been appreciating mine more as I age and gravity's a factor. The odd, super-flat chest of surgical "non-binariness" reminds me of my old Ginny-dolls, the pre-Barbie playthings whose clothing I learned fastening snaps on. Their slightly barrel chests were girlish and innocent. The purple and rainbow hair moms were acting outside of any normal parental behavior I've ever seen, louder, bouncier and overt-ier than their little kids. Documenting it on a camera, of course, to post on Tik Tok I imagine.
Ute Heggen, gratefully seeing this crazy world with both eyes, flashes diminishing
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I lived in "Park Slope" in the 1980s (actually on the very edge in a mixed neighborhood), and I can just imagine what the neighborhood is like now. Fortunately, here in Maine people still look pretty normal though you see the kool-aid hair regularly in places like Belfast. But that is so weird about the "parents" acting more childish than the children. I can just picture these kids growing up, having to behave like adults, being very serious, and seeking out an extremely conventional life!
(Btw, I've had floaters for years, probably due to proofreading 1,000 pages a week since that's when I got them. Glad your flashes are diminishing!)
Thanks so much, I thank all who have reached out during my crisis with my retinal condition. I've connected now with the surgeon who saved my son's eye after the injury, detailed in my memoir. It's been cathartic and healing somehow. I saw monarch butterfly #76 for the season upon return home.
I'm quite concerned regarding the children of "adults" who haven't had puberty, or are now on cross-sex hormones + all the accompanying pharma. They are distracted and overly political. The kids who are naturally strong probably will drift towards tradition. I just saw part of an interview Helen Joyce did with Jordan Peterson on his YT channel, they make the same comments; Peterson has the narcissism of twitter mobs pegged.
Meanwhile, everyone join Elaine Miller's YT channel, That Elaine Miller. Her reaction to the Edinburgh Fringe mob is deep and relevant. Also, Chloe Cole responds to the hit piece on her, recently "disappeared" from Forbes at Colin Wright's substack, Reality's Last Stand.
Ute Heggen, author, In the Curated Woods, True Tales from a Grass Widow (iuniverse, 2022)
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