(This is the final part of a three-part post. Parts 1 and 2 can be found here and here. ) This then was the situation that I faced. I had a daughter who was in a cult and was demanding that she be allowed to permanently damage her health and irrevocably alter her appearance. And the very people who should have been protecting Sinead and trying to help her had betrayed my trust in the most appalling way possible. Clearly, there was no one coming to the rescue. We were on our own. When I realised I was dealing with a cult I was strangely relieved as finally I understood what was going on. And how to fix it.
I wish every parent going through this could read this. I wish every teacher, therapist and doctor could point them to advice like this rather than the harmful and criminal validation advice. When did learned adults start bending the knee to teens as experts? Bravo to this mum and family for getting through this in a rational, supportive and logical manner. Sinead is fortunate to have these parents.
"Your teenager may come across as an expert in all things trans, but they are no match for an adult who has done their research." Brava. Excellent and hard won advice generously and articulately offered to suffering parents and their children. Wow. I'm impressed.
In the future, people will not believe how easily the mantra “Transwomen Are Women” was able to smash logic and sane thought. “The Bigger the Lie” is THE golden ticket to the obliteration of reason. The Third Reich knew it. The ‘gender’ ideologues know it. There’s no Bigger Lie than that of a human being's ability to transform into the opposite sex. It’s depressing to see how vulnerable and fragile the human psyche is to a Big Lie. After this ‘gender’ cult is dismantled, somehow we must inoculate young people against succumbing ever again to such propaganda tactics.
Thank you for your advice. My daughter is 15 and we’ve been in the cult for two full years. We don’t use the boy name or male pronouns and at the moment she’s not made too much fuss if it but I’m always expecting an argument on it. My husband wants to confront things head on and I know he’s right but I’m terrified of losing her completely so I pretend to myself it will be ok.
Your advice has given me a bit of a push I know a lot about the whole trans stuff but I’m rubbish in an argument. I’m going to watch your recommended videos. Thanks for sharing what obviously was a horrible period of your life.
O my word , I was in absolute tears reading this , I wish every Sinead had such wonderful parents , and I wish the worst time in hell for everyone who has supported and encouraged this cult / mutilation /brainwashing on our children
This episode and the two preceding are excellent, full of information, ideas, pointers and where to look for help. This should be available to every single school, doctor, surgeon, therapist. I also recommend issac on yt some of his videos are just heartbreaking 💔 but his softly spoken approach and the information give is very very helpful. Exulansic is amazing, arty morty great fun, Mr memno, and I recommend the mess we're in and particularly their interview with Elaine Miller. This mum is very brave as is sinead
I have an interview tomorrow with the state supervising board certifying the "sexologist" PhD psychologist who wrote in a sworn affidavit that she diagnosed my then husband (secretly, on his part, of course) on July 20, 1993. She's still in practice. She gave details that were false and could get her license revoked, because of what she wrote in 1996! Be sure to get care plans &etc, in writing from these charlatans! This one had a non-certified practitioner doing the "weekly therapy sessions" she claimed she did. I will be making an official telephone statement tomorrow and hopefully they do an investigation. This shady area of the field has had no scrutiny. Thanks, Graham! Ute
Your daughter is so lucky that you handled it all so well and potentially saved her from a life of grim medical conditions and deep regret. There must be a lot of worried parents who really need to read this. I hope it gets shared far and wide.
How ironic: denigrating co-sleeping and demand-feeding as 'permissive' is a fine example of dismissing biological reality. These are basic needs of human babies but our so-called progressive society, feminism etc, has devalued these practices and labelled them wrong and therefore damaging. Quite the opposite is true - meeting a completely dependent infant's needs is not being permissive, it is fundamental to healthy development.
This was awesome, and it's a little too late for us. Our "teen" is almost 19 and in college. This nightmare started for us in 2019 and in 2020, after 6 months of awful therapy and learning the dangers of social media, it was too far gone. So we focused on keeping her close and still do. She's still entrenched , but getting better therapy for her trauma and personality disorder. All we can do is hope and pray.......I hope parents who are just dealing with this read this and act on the excellent suggestions.
This three part stort is very inspiring. The mum hearing her daughter was trans and the effort she went through to rescue her daughter. The effort, the education to study the subject, to prepare yourself to oppose this ideology. The patience and understanding that you were up against. The difficulty you faced by people who indoctrinated your daughter. The logical way you communicated with your daughter, with patience you persevered over a long period. It took a long time as it does with kids caputured by a cult, but you never gave up. In the end your efforts saved your daughter from a terrible situation. You are truly inspirational. Your story should be shared far and wide.
I’m so relieved that my kids are grown up. It also breaks my heart as a double mastectomy cancer survivor to see the terrible self mutilation in those photos; carried out by adults who really should be held accountable.
This is such a brilliant series of posts. Well done for getting your daughter back - my heart breaks for all those struggling with this and all the poor kids whose parents just cave in and go along with it. Adults are supposed to hold the line, set the boundaries, keep the world safe in a time of flux and we're failing this generation so badly. One thing I noticed was that you and your husband worked on this together, how on earth do the divorced parents where one is pushing this cope - there seem to be cases where the so called 'trans child' is weaponised, which must add a whole new layer of pain and damage into the mix.
This is a wonderfully articulated, brave, and astute essay. You are correct that "Many parents these days are afraid of their teenage children" and are "tiptoeing around their teenagers so as not to incur their disapproval." As a psychologist and former stay-at-home dad who raised three, I agree with you completely. Your family is lucky to have you, you are lucky to have such a supporting spouse, and I admire your strength and tenacity. Thank you so much for telling your story, Frederick
I wish every parent going through this could read this. I wish every teacher, therapist and doctor could point them to advice like this rather than the harmful and criminal validation advice. When did learned adults start bending the knee to teens as experts? Bravo to this mum and family for getting through this in a rational, supportive and logical manner. Sinead is fortunate to have these parents.
"Your teenager may come across as an expert in all things trans, but they are no match for an adult who has done their research." Brava. Excellent and hard won advice generously and articulately offered to suffering parents and their children. Wow. I'm impressed.
In the future, people will not believe how easily the mantra “Transwomen Are Women” was able to smash logic and sane thought. “The Bigger the Lie” is THE golden ticket to the obliteration of reason. The Third Reich knew it. The ‘gender’ ideologues know it. There’s no Bigger Lie than that of a human being's ability to transform into the opposite sex. It’s depressing to see how vulnerable and fragile the human psyche is to a Big Lie. After this ‘gender’ cult is dismantled, somehow we must inoculate young people against succumbing ever again to such propaganda tactics.
Thank you for your advice. My daughter is 15 and we’ve been in the cult for two full years. We don’t use the boy name or male pronouns and at the moment she’s not made too much fuss if it but I’m always expecting an argument on it. My husband wants to confront things head on and I know he’s right but I’m terrified of losing her completely so I pretend to myself it will be ok.
Your advice has given me a bit of a push I know a lot about the whole trans stuff but I’m rubbish in an argument. I’m going to watch your recommended videos. Thanks for sharing what obviously was a horrible period of your life.
O my word , I was in absolute tears reading this , I wish every Sinead had such wonderful parents , and I wish the worst time in hell for everyone who has supported and encouraged this cult / mutilation /brainwashing on our children
This episode and the two preceding are excellent, full of information, ideas, pointers and where to look for help. This should be available to every single school, doctor, surgeon, therapist. I also recommend issac on yt some of his videos are just heartbreaking 💔 but his softly spoken approach and the information give is very very helpful. Exulansic is amazing, arty morty great fun, Mr memno, and I recommend the mess we're in and particularly their interview with Elaine Miller. This mum is very brave as is sinead
I have an interview tomorrow with the state supervising board certifying the "sexologist" PhD psychologist who wrote in a sworn affidavit that she diagnosed my then husband (secretly, on his part, of course) on July 20, 1993. She's still in practice. She gave details that were false and could get her license revoked, because of what she wrote in 1996! Be sure to get care plans &etc, in writing from these charlatans! This one had a non-certified practitioner doing the "weekly therapy sessions" she claimed she did. I will be making an official telephone statement tomorrow and hopefully they do an investigation. This shady area of the field has had no scrutiny. Thanks, Graham! Ute
This should be compulsory reading for ALL parents. Wonderfully brave woman and lucky, lucky girl to have her as her mum.
Your daughter is so lucky that you handled it all so well and potentially saved her from a life of grim medical conditions and deep regret. There must be a lot of worried parents who really need to read this. I hope it gets shared far and wide.
How ironic: denigrating co-sleeping and demand-feeding as 'permissive' is a fine example of dismissing biological reality. These are basic needs of human babies but our so-called progressive society, feminism etc, has devalued these practices and labelled them wrong and therefore damaging. Quite the opposite is true - meeting a completely dependent infant's needs is not being permissive, it is fundamental to healthy development.
This was awesome, and it's a little too late for us. Our "teen" is almost 19 and in college. This nightmare started for us in 2019 and in 2020, after 6 months of awful therapy and learning the dangers of social media, it was too far gone. So we focused on keeping her close and still do. She's still entrenched , but getting better therapy for her trauma and personality disorder. All we can do is hope and pray.......I hope parents who are just dealing with this read this and act on the excellent suggestions.
This three part stort is very inspiring. The mum hearing her daughter was trans and the effort she went through to rescue her daughter. The effort, the education to study the subject, to prepare yourself to oppose this ideology. The patience and understanding that you were up against. The difficulty you faced by people who indoctrinated your daughter. The logical way you communicated with your daughter, with patience you persevered over a long period. It took a long time as it does with kids caputured by a cult, but you never gave up. In the end your efforts saved your daughter from a terrible situation. You are truly inspirational. Your story should be shared far and wide.
I’m so relieved that my kids are grown up. It also breaks my heart as a double mastectomy cancer survivor to see the terrible self mutilation in those photos; carried out by adults who really should be held accountable.
Thank you; this had been an astonishing read. What a parent you are!
This is such a brilliant series of posts. Well done for getting your daughter back - my heart breaks for all those struggling with this and all the poor kids whose parents just cave in and go along with it. Adults are supposed to hold the line, set the boundaries, keep the world safe in a time of flux and we're failing this generation so badly. One thing I noticed was that you and your husband worked on this together, how on earth do the divorced parents where one is pushing this cope - there seem to be cases where the so called 'trans child' is weaponised, which must add a whole new layer of pain and damage into the mix.
This is a wonderfully articulated, brave, and astute essay. You are correct that "Many parents these days are afraid of their teenage children" and are "tiptoeing around their teenagers so as not to incur their disapproval." As a psychologist and former stay-at-home dad who raised three, I agree with you completely. Your family is lucky to have you, you are lucky to have such a supporting spouse, and I admire your strength and tenacity. Thank you so much for telling your story, Frederick