A transwoman, a transman and a non binary fella walk up to a Terf…

The title could be the start of a modern-day joke, but sadly the punchline isn’t very funny.

On Saturday 17^th June, I organised a handful of women’s rights campaigners under “Standing for Women” to come and do a Let Women Speak event in Lincoln city centre.

When I put the first post on Twitter a couple of weeks earlier, there wasn’t much response. However, when I posted a reminder two days before the event, I discovered it had quickly gained traction with the trans community and blew up on the internet fast, covering Twitter, Facebook and Reddit.

Of course, they called me an “Anti Trans Activist” and a “hate speech campaigner” and encouraged anyone who wanted to stand against me to come along. They even called the police to get them to stop me (which didn’t work) and got local businesses to advertise themselves as “safe spaces” for those who might be triggered by my awful bigotry.

In this piece though, I want to talk about three (out of many) individuals who came over and between them, spent nearly two hours speaking to me and putting their side across.

The first person I spoke to identified as “Non-Binary.” He was an average height (for a man), a stocky fella with a full beard. He was very courteous and I could tell he was bright and educated. However, I found it hard to understand his “non-binary” status, and when I asked him to explain he didn’t seem to know himself. Simply responding that he didn’t feel male or female. I felt quite sorry for him, realising he was likely just a lonely young man who could have easily changed his fate by going to the gym, taking up a hobby and hanging out somewhere normal. To give him credit, he helped stop several others attacking me while we spoke and I was grateful to him for that.

Next, I had two others draw their attention to me. One was a “Transwoman.” A guy with false eyelashes and bright red lipstick donned onto filler-enlarged lips and artificial breasts. These were the only vaguely feminine things about him. I could tell he was a man straight away, which annoyed him a little when I calmly pointed this out. He told me about his experience growing up. About how from quite young he’d stolen his mothers and sisters knickers to wear secretly, and how he had always been a woman trapped in a man’s body. Again, this man was quite sweet, although I sensed very quickly that he likely was a man you didn’t want to piss off, so I never brought up the subject of “Autogynophilia” during our conversation and just let him talk over me as any woman would.

The third person, who was standing in the transwoman’s shadow, was a transman. A small, slim lady with a bit of beard and a voice that sounded like a 16-year-old boy who was still going through puberty and was waiting for it to finally break. She explained to me that she didn’t believe there were all these men invading women’s spaces and that men in women’s prison was a lie. She was sweet and her small hands were visibly shaking through most of our conversation. She asked me if women would be fearful seeing her in the women’s toilets, to which I replied, no, I can tell you’re a woman, she asked how and I pointed out her small hands, feet and ankles. I then said she wouldn’t ever be a threat to men in the men’s toilets anyway so that wasn’t the issue.

Whilst all this was going on, in the background I could constantly hear the words “evil,” “terf,” “bigot,” “bitch” and the C word directed at me by the drag queens and others. It was a site to behold and for a woman of my size (5’3 & 90lbs) quite a scary experience. I realised afterwards I was in survival mode for most of the 2 hours.

In conclusion, around 200 people turned up to silence two women, two!

What are they so afraid of us saying? What are they afraid we’ll do? Do leaflets and t shirts that say “Woman-Adult Human Female” scare them that much that they would endeavour to outnumber us 100 to 1?

It would seem so.

I have now decided to join Kellie Jay Keens party, Party of Women and run in Lincoln as I feel after yesterday, it’s so desperately needed.

Let’s see what happens next…