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As always I started liking tweets and realised then that I should really be liking all of them, so I stopped. thanks for all the kind responses. x

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discernment is always valued

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I am not paying for the content - I am paying for you. I think most of us who pay are not looking for exclusivity we are funding the cause - like a political party - I am making a donation. - I want you to spread the word. Also - Sell things on here I am sure people would buy them. You could keep a tiny corner for us payers if you want but really take the money we want to give you and monetise the rest! XX

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I agree entirely. We are paying for you and the cause. Put it all behind a paywall, but make a weekly digest free? Thank you for being a hero on this, Graham. I have to disengage periodically because I get so obsessed with the 'if only I could explain it more clearly or get them to read the right thing, make the right comparison they'd get it' conversations in my head that it makes me really unhappy. But you never allow yourself that luxury, and I'm so grateful you keep providing the receipts. My 'queer' 21 yr old niece has drunk the whole jug of Kool Aid, and pronounced that biology is a social construct. And her hippy parents are totally behind her, because it's kind, and left, and progressive, right? And no matter what I say, or how many articles and receipts I send them - (which they don't read) all they see is someone who doesn't understand the complexities of gender. It makes me insane that they can't see how abusive this movement is.

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I'm with KiwiFloof, I've also had to take a break from gender woo, though keeping up a little with KJK's tour here and there. Gender and TRA behaviour disgusts me.

A separate musings website - behind a paywall or not - might be good for you and your mental health though.

Thank you for everything, as always.

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Also, when I say 'hippy parents' I don't mean that in a derogatory way. They're lovely. But I'm now really unable to separate what they've said about what I feel so strongly about. It's not just about disagreeing in politics. It feels to me as if their daughter has joined Hitler Youth and they can't see. As far as I'm concerned, having really studied this movement for the last 6 years or so - it's eugenics. With a patriarchal slant, natch. I cannot be okay with that and just pretend we (my sister et al) have different politics anymore (as if we ever did before - we were all leftists) It really makes me unhappy.

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I get you KiwiFloof, nothing wrong with hippy parents! Just a shame anyone who already considers themselves very lefty is more susceptible to gender woo. It's harder for you than me, I'm from a fairly centrist family, a mix of classic working class 'classic' Labour leftism (pre-New Labour) and social conservatism (which leaves us middle-ish, I suppose). Luckily for our family, there are no kids or teens caught up in the contagion. It amazes me how anyone can swallow what I see as such blatant sexism and still stick a left wing label on it, especially given the medical atrocities being committed. I'm unhappy even though my family see where I'm coming from. A few friends, but none who understand that gender is bad and that being a TERF is the right side of history. Stay strong!

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Thanks Kay. What's so nuts is that they're all academics. Their job is to question orthodoxy at the very least. But they're just entrenched in this ideology. I can't bear it. And I'm actually a writer for TV, so you can imagine how often the gender woo comes up as a thing that's supposed to be an affirmative story. I'm freelance so you can only say so much without being denounced, right? But I will not write something that I know is simply fucked up wrong. This is like a support group, so thank you.

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What I really can't square is how we weren't bigots about 8 years ago, but now we are. It's not only the blind acceptance that gets me, it's the complete denial that any cultural, social, intellectual shift has occurred, as if we always wandered around believing that men were literal women and that children could be born in wrong bodies. Even old school transsexuals know that sex is real. But we know why that is - because they're not really part of this lefty woke authoritarianism, they're not queer (as a political identity). It's really strange to me that LGB has been hijacked by the TQ and the TQ doesn't even represent old school transsexuals, it represents the new corporate-fuelled, celebrity-endorsed, flag-frenzied, Big Pharma high speed choo choo train that is transgenderism. There is only so much you can say without being denounced BUT I heard Helen Joyce (not sure if you're in the UK? She's fab, worth looking up if you don't know her), anyway a few months back I heard her say that sometimes, you are better to be a little bit quieter within an establishment and make small gains than to reject every premise and get kicked out (I know you're freelance, but you get what I mean). I still cannot believe they've made supporting the medical abuse of children a way to keep one's job. It's sickening... Take heart, you will make small gains over time. Respect to everyone who has stuck their neck out and done more (I haven't), but sometimes you can make great change from within. This is like a support group, isn't it? Thank you too :)

p.s. yes, academia has been quite tribal for some time now and it's so tribal now. I totally disagree with them teaching students what to think rather than how to think. It was years and years ago now but any time I ever give a shred of credit to the British Empire in my university essays, I was marked down and told I was wrong, and all I ever said was that it did offer training to some people and skilled people up, enabled travel etc. It wasn't a glowing report by any stretch of the imagination, it did incredible damage all over the world, but I was marked down for stating a fact because it didn't fit with their worldview.

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I’m fully with those who say we’re paying for you to keep fighting, Graham. Thanks for all you’ve done and continue to do. I only became aware of your situation within the last year or so. I met you once about twenty years ago. I was with Simon Donald (the Viz guy) in the Groucho Club. I thought you were a decent bloke and very funny. So I took an interest when I heard you had this problem with the transgender activists. Since then I’ve followed this debate and become familiar with some of the voices of sanity in the madness - not people I would necessarily agree with on politics or religion in normal times. But these are not normal times. There’s a crazy infiltration of our institutions that threatens family and public life. JK Rowling, Matt Walsh, Helen Joyce, KJK, Jordan Peterson, all make worthwhile contributions to the pro-science, pro-women and children argument, but I see your personal struggle as the one I feel most able to support with the occasional few quid from my pension.

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You highlighted something that had struck me about this madness. I normally dress to the left but on this subject I find myself agreeing with people I usually loathe - Melanie Phillips, Liz Truss,Laurence Fox - even Tucker Carlson’

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Yes, I had to go and lie down in a darkened room when I realized I was in agreement with Tucker Carlson on trans issues.

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Just wanted to say thank you for sharing your conversation in this thread, KiwiFloof, Kay E, and others, so amazing to me and I feel thankful there are such good people in the world like you. All trying to do our part in this. Stand strong!! Best luck to you and your loved ones.

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Oh god, don't encourage my ranting! 😂

On a serious note, no worries! I don't feel I'm doing very much but I will tell people the truth about what I think and I will never tell lies.

Being here for each other is one thing we can all do, right?

Also, TERFs are so much funnier than TRAs!

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Never fear, I too love a good rant, even when I didn't post it! I tell a best friend with more troubles than me, on phone calls, that "Ranting can be good, so please rant, I'm listening!" She listens to my rants too, though admits to needing to turn the volume button down sometimes (so for my loudness, written ranting is good!) Yes, too, I agree, TERFs are much funnier, as honesty and courage and compassion are important parts of a good sense of humor! Whereas TRAs are mean and pathetic at best, which in itself says a lot about them. So glad to see all the love here for Graham and one another. 😊😘❤️

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I totally agree about humour. There has to be a good-heartedness to it (at its core) and there is no goodness in spreading scientific misinformation and hurting vulnerable children/people.

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Me too, I’ve never ranted so much about anything but I think it’s a good release mechanism. We’d all explode if we didn’t let it out sometimes. And this is a great ‘support group’.

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"I am not paying for the content -- I am paying for you". Exactly. We are paying for a man who has given his all for the benefit of all of us.

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Totally agree. We're paying for you. Plus, modern life is swamped with content nowadays so it's nice to know that the bit we get from you is quality stuff.

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Should’ve read the comments before acting mine! Quite agree

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What Annie says, and look after yourself. This is a marathon, pace is everything. Have a rest when you want and kick arse when you’re ready, your decision is always the right one. I’ll keep my subscription going for years anyway. Thank you for everything you do, you’ve helped me and my daughter (yet another autistic teenager) more than any subscription. I’ll buy you the many beers I have stacked up waiting when I get the chance too.

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Agree! This is a donation to you, Graham, and for this most important fight.

Please keep going. For me I'm happy to read anything you want to post on here. Some alternatives might give a break from the grind of fighting these maniacs.

Humour, as we all know, is a wonderful tonic too.

Prayers and blessings and positive vibes all the way mate.

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Exactly this, it’s about supporting I’m not fussed if you keep it all accessible to everyone

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Same. I will be keeping up my subscription regardless.

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This. All this. My sentiments exactly.

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Ditto to all that.

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Yes, definitely, I agree with you entirely.

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Absolutely agree! Well said x

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It’s a difficult one. I do think it’s important that people who can’t pay have access to your vital and informative content on women’s rights (I am eternally grateful for you pulling the wool from my eyes and can see how necessary it is). I would suggest doing what you do now, so keeping some separate but also allowing us to help fundraise. A separate musing website would be very welcome. We love your comedy musings . And I imagine that this is a relief when dealing with idiots and fantasists the rest of the time. I salute you Graham.

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Graham, you are doing a brilliant job in supporting women and I'm sorry that it continues to take such an emotional and financial toll on you.

I don't think you should give your music and comedy away for free.

If you do that, then the haters have won. They still get to enjoy your brilliance but don't have to engage with your views. All those people for whom you have helped make a lot of money are not prepared to back you in public, but I bet they'll be coming out of the woodwork in agreement once the trans cult have been defeated.

They really love your stuff and want to see it, but they don't want your name on it and they won't pay you for it. I really admire your stance in refusing to remove your name from the Father Ted musical. This could easily settle your financial issues, but your principles are worth more.

So, put the stuff they really want behind a paywall. And mix it in with your views on the danger of gender ideology, because they if they are happy to pay for your funny stuff, they must be reminded that it comes with your principles.

Put out teasers for free. Put out some gender ideology views for free, put the rest behind a paywall.

You are a whole person, loved for your comedy and your politics. They can't get one without the other.

And don't skip over the beloved bit. You are amazing and we love you.

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I agree with this. I’d love to see some more content about your writing and comedy (new projects as well as old favourites). But I do appreciate that you have a living to make and don’t think you should give your art away for free. So stick to one feed, keep the paywall but put out the odd freebie here and there.

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Put it all behind a paywall except for a free article a week. That's what most writers seem to be doing.

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Yes, I see a lot of that on substack, eg Kara Dansky, who has some free stuff and some subscriber only stuff. And Megan Murphy (I think) only allows *paying* subscribers to add comments. That might get a bit of cash out of your more gobby, I mean, vocal supporters who love seeing their comments in print, as I do.

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Graham -- write a memoir.

That's where your goldmine lies.

Trust me, it'll be a mega bestseller.

(When you have time, of course.)

Congratulations on your successful CrowdFunder.

Now go get the wee git -- the biggest baby in Scotland!

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Yep, I agree! A memoir would be fantastic 💚🤍💜

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I'd quite like to see a movie...

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Only question is whether beating Paisley will be the last chapter or the first night of the Ted Musical.

Call it "The T Crowd - How trans activists tried and failed to cancel a top sitcom creator"

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I rather like the title "Linehan Unleashed". But the T Crowd is really good!

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I'd like to see a Moley poster for that musical/movie - with the former 'I' being smashed or carried off by the ideological thugs, leaving the clinically gleaming 'T' proudly standing atop the destruction wreaked. Or a big 'I' being chased round and off stage. It's all a bit tragicomichorror at the moment.

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Or, 'When Dougal Took Over The World', because every time I see SuzyFloozyIzzy with his pink lippie and beret, I also see Dougal saying to Ted, "Ah, to be sure, Ted, but she's a lovely looking woman!", whilst Ted's mouth drops open in horror... ;0)

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Great idea. Raise the money to publish it himself too. We'll all help.

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Do whatever works best for you. I am interested in the GC content, and I will continue financial support for this. Good luck 🍀

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I don’t mind what you do, I don’t really pay for the sub stack information because I find out most of that myself. I’m paying because I want to support you in what you are doing for all of us, for society, sanity and truth. We wouldn’t be as far on in this fight if it wasn’t for you and a few other people. You given up so much on our behalf. You are a hero and I hope you get the recognition you deserve if and when this is all over. I’m going to stop now because I don’t want to get too soppy 😜but I love you glinner as I’m sure all of us do.

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Underrated comment and username :)

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Thank you x

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Best of luck with that arsehole Graham. I can’t begin to imagine how stressful that must be. Sending strength and good wishes your way.

I like the idea of some content being free but the number of people spreading the word is increasing 😀 so perhaps, as others are suggesting put it behind a paywall and have the odd free article.

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Here's an example of how important commas can be, haha.

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You're funny, Fraserreal 😂

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Yep. I had to read that first line a couple of times!! Hahaha🤣

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I happy to keep giving you my sub anyway. Do what you want

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Advice? Graham, I believe it is better to shift the question out of a narrow focus on how to manage or fund your commentary. Take your question to its proper context: your talents, your career, your happiness, and our pleasure. You should go to what you love, and what you are good at, for making your living: dramatise this stuff. We need a witheringly funny send up of the zealots. You may not yet have doors re-opened to you by the craven mob appeasers in the entertainment media in the UK but there are others. There are 'Medicis' out there, and they are n to always Thiels or Bezoses with an agenda. The best comedy and biting commentary comes from the underdog, the underfunded, the nothing-to-lose, the rebel: time to go (back) to that mindset. Your talents expressed through your work there will be more than enough of an answer to your looper tormentors. It will also remind the cowardly media that they should stick their necks out and go with you. The zealots have captured social media (what a term, it's neither) and have put a chill on talent, talk and any expression the truths they can't face. They will crumble as their predecessors have and slink away. We'll be left with massive and bitter bewilderment, wondering 'did that madness actually happen?' So don't let them damage you any more or deflect you from your career. Go to your gifts and use them as you have always done.

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I don't have an answer, Graham, but will certainly think about it. I just came here to say I'm delighted and relieved for you to see just now that you made your target on crowdjustice.

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I would rather you kept to the one site - but look after yourself and thank you for all that you are doing!

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I'd carry on donating as usual. I pay for content *and* for you. I think you are doing the work of a secular prophet - don't laugh - and secular prophets need to make ends meet. You've sacrificed a lot for this cause and you've been pilloried and diabolified more than any human should be. Anyone who can write Father Ted *and* Count Arthur Strong (sorry, the other stuff you've written was never on my radar, although I may have a gander at some point at Black Books) and then goes on to contribute comprehensively to the fight against one of the most pernicious social ills of our time - well, he's a special person in my estimation. And so I'd donate even if I never read another post - hypothetically speaking, obviously, because there's no way I'd ever stop reading your posts. But I think - and hope - that you get what I mean. We love you, Graham, so knock yourself out and do what you have to do, and whatever the exigencies demand and dictate. I'm fully in support, and I'm sure I'm not the only one.

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Have the gander!!! Please!! I will have a rewatch of Black Books now you've just reminded me. It's so many elements of so many people, places and interactions I know. Absolutely perfect moments you can relate to. I've accidentally fallen into random situations very much like it.

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Black Books is brilliant.

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I am happy to keep paying but it can be frustrating when I try to share something important that you have posted but my recipient can't read it because it's behind a paywall.

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Good point. I had a few subs, but the more everything was put behind a paywall and with every type of media, I found I would need so many to replicate what I would read or watch before it all went online. I know there are some free ones, trials, and ways round, and with library sub services, but then new ones mushroom and behind yet another paywall. It would be nice to have a pay per article view option or some other way, like you could pick up a paper in the old days and read it, and pick up a new one if you fancied trying it for a bit, or a mate said you must read this. And of course people need to be paid for their work.

I think the team here did a giveaway or trial we could pass to friends a few times but no one I know wanted to read it :-(. I wonder if that had a good take up?

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May want to try to copy and paste such things or sections of such things, when behind paywalls, if possible, then you can email, share in other ways. Just a thought, something I've done, though may not work in all circumstances.

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That’s a good idea Mildred.

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Congratulations Graham on hitting your target! I'm proud to have been one of the many contributors and a paid subscriber. I appreciate all the laughter your writing has given me and my husband. Also grateful for The Mess We're In which helped open my eyes to this sinister ideology. I believe society will be indebted to you for not backing down, just like JKR and Kelly Jay. Separate funny stuff sounds like a great idea.

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