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Matt Osborne's avatar

"These are the marks of a manipulative group exercising destructive influence over its most vulnerable members."

A cult. The word for that is "cult."

Ute Heggen's avatar

This is exactly right. I'm the ex-wife of a man who thinks he's a woman, who called me every one of those names for refusing to "change my orientation" and stay married. Then I was accused of "breaking up our family" by the diagnosing psychologist as well as by him.

I can tell you this:

It is a brittle, all-consuming obsession, requiring everyone to submit. The term DARVO, deny, attack, reverse victim and offender, is the phenomenon. Were it a valid identity, they would "just be happy and go about their lives." They know, deep within, that their mission is to force others, openly, publicly and convincingly, that this cult is not a cult--it is "real."

What they didn't bargain for was the extreme damage that wrong sex hormones, pharma cocktails and plastic surgeries on genitals do long term. No one told them. It is especially disturbing to know how many surgeons, like Marcia Bowers, are men who ideate they are women, now recruiting and using youth to validate their personal obsessions and fantasies.

Ute Heggen, author, In the Curated Woods, True Tails from a Grass Widow (iuniverse, 2022)

uteheggengrasswidow.wordpress.com

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