Has your child gone "no contact"?

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The popular narrative holds that homeless trans-identified youth are overwhelmingly the victims of parental rejection. It’s a story told so often and with such moral certainty that it’s become unchallengeable dogma: children come out as trans, and bigoted parents throw them out. But as journalist Tina Traster made clear to me, the truth is more often the opposite—and far more painful.

In countless cases, it’s not the parents who are rejecting the children. It’s the children—often encouraged by online communities and ideologically captured professionals—who are rejecting their families. Loving, concerned parents are being cut out of their children’s lives simply for asking questions, for hesitating, or for refusing to greenlight irreversible medical interventions.

Traster describes the heartbreak of watching families fracture because a parent said, “Let’s wait.” That’s all it takes. One note of caution, one attempt to protect a child from permanent bodily harm, and the child—armed with a script they’ve been taught online—says, “You’re toxic. You’re abusive.” And just like that, a mother or father disappears from their child’s life.

These parents are not bigots. They are not rejecting their children. They are doing what good parents do: protecting them, even when it’s unpopular. But the new orthodoxy doesn’t allow for parental authority. It doesn’t tolerate doubt. The only permissible response is immediate affirmation—social, legal, medical. Anything less is framed as abuse.

This isn’t a natural, organic shift in family dynamics. It’s manufactured. It’s ideological. Schools, therapists, online influencers, and peer networks now reinforce the idea that parents are obstacles to “authenticity.” A child in distress is told their parents are dangerous. That they must choose between transition and love. And in a world where victimhood is currency, being “rejected” becomes a badge of honour—whether it’s true or not.

The damage is devastating. Parents lose their children. Children lose their families. And nobody wins—except the activists, clinics, and pharmaceutical companies who profit from the resulting cascade of interventions.

If you’re a parent who’s experienced this—if your child has gone no-contact because you didn’t immediately affirm a sudden, out-of-the-blue declaration of a new identity—I want to hear from you. Your voice matters. You are not alone. And your story may help others caught in the same trap.

All stories will be treated with respect. Anonymity is guaranteed if you wish. Please write to us at nocontactvoices@gmail.com if you’d like to share your experience.